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Last edited by Hays; 07-17-2013 at 11:53 PM.
Regarding the person who enjoys providing technology and latest equipment sounds like someone who enjoys that stuff him/herself AND might primarily speak the Language of Love known as Gifts.
Not what you were asking for, i know.
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
It is important to understand WHY these individuals have these trait since very different motivations can cause similar behavior. Your descriptions sound like the first person is sensing logical person and the second is an intuitive ethical person, which is a trait of a dual relationship. I don't know which one in particular though.
If your example is a description of people in your life, it could be an activator relationship just as easily as a dual relationship. It could also be something completely different, or simply shared and complementary interest completely outside the realm of socionics.
Well, most ISxx types are a bit like that, I suppose.
With my girlfriend, I just insist without bickering. And I mean I may start 1 month before and remind her 4-5 times a day that I want her to do something particular with me (ofc I only do it if I think she'll enjoy...so no 250 km bike tours). She'll usually say yes out of exhaustion
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
You only need ONE dual to be happy
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Last edited by betterthan; 07-26-2013 at 11:56 AM.
IEI, sp/sx 4w3.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Let me tell you how amazing this LSE is
When we were at dinner I asked him, "why are you dating when you're traveling to all these places and you haven't settled or don't know where you want to yet? Shouldn't [here's my judgement ooopsy, bear with me ] you wait to settle before you date?" (I have my reasons for making this last judgement and that is that I don't like it when men have a lax moral outlook about how they treat women and especially relationship, another words my thinking is that you shouldn't see someone who can possibly fall in love with you while your mind is somewhere else like traveling to a new place); my wonderful LSE said "well, she'll come with me of course."
I thought "yes, baby." That's exactly the kind of man I want. Goodbye to all the ass holes. Usually, the ass hole LSE response to my question above is "well, you're already settled here, right?" In which case I think, "wrong answer ass hole, it's about us not you. If you're giving me this response, that means I'm not in your picture in which case you think you can just toy around with me. Good luck with you and I hope you find your happiness."
I have should and shouldn't dos about relational behavior
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
But here's the funny thing.... the person that offers technology as a gift may do so because they themselves enjoy technology, and may be assuming that their level of enjoyment transfers to the other person. It's as if we're all giving gifts into a mirror. I noticed this two Christmases ago. Here's an example:
My husband loves soundtracks, especially Hans Zimmer (Man of Steel, Inception, Dark Knight). He also loves final fantasy, so I decided to get him concert tickets for the Final Fantasy symphony concert called Distant Worlds, but the concert was in a different state. So the gift was really a packaged trip with to the concert with hotel & flight, and I packaged it up all with clues in a box that I painted and a really long love note.
He's sentimental and fancier than I am, so he bought me a really nice watch and a beautiful frame of some of his favorite pictures of us together.
The reality is- I thought I was buying him something he'd like, but in truth, I somehow bought him something that I would want to receive as a gift (travel, adventure to somewhere new, a concert, and a love note). He got me what HE would want as a gift.
So during our anniversary, I gave some thought as to what he got me for Christmas, which would indicate what he would want and enjoy, and I tried to remove myself and my enjoyment from the idea of the gift. Since he got me the photos, I decided to take my favorite photo of the two of us and have it blown up and artistically painted onto canvas. When I showed him my gift on our anniversary, he looked at me and started laughing. He got me the same thing, same picture and all, artistically blown up and painted onto canvas. So now we have two large canvases of the same photo, side by side, in our room, and it makes us laugh all the time.
What are the chances? Well.. I figure they're higher once you start paying attention not to what people like, but to what they give to others in the past, because that's probably closer to what they like.
EDIT: I'm getting him a watch this anniversary.
And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and gone tomorrow, won't he more surely care for you?- Matthew 6:30
And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and gone tomorrow, won't he more surely care for you?- Matthew 6:30
What a sweet family! I'm so very glad your daughter is OK! I cannot imagine how scary that must have been.
It's interesting that you say she's an ENFp, but she's OK doing her own thing apart from her husband. I'm learning more and more than I need to just go out and do the things that I want to do, because my husband in general doesn't enjoy what I enjoy. It's both wonderful and heartbreaking, as I think I personally romanticized my life with a partner closer to an Activity relationship model, where we do everything together, but that's been far from the case. In fact, if there's something I want to do, I'm better off doing it alone, because he'll either not want to do it, or it'll take him eons to come around. But if there's something he wants to do, I'm always the ring leader, planning and making it happen. I wonder how your daughter feels about that. Perhaps she's since adjusted. We ENFp types seem to adjust well : )
Loved your description of you and your husband. You sound like a lovely couple!
And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and gone tomorrow, won't he more surely care for you?- Matthew 6:30
my SLI brother is like the laziest person on the planet. he has to have everything set up for him to want to do anything. it drives his gf mad but she plans everything and forces him to go... he bitches about it, but he always says he had fun..after the fact.
and applejacks, lol that's hilarious about the painting.
Any idea what your brother's gf is?
It's hard not to feel like you're holding up more than your end with an SLI, but he honestly tells me he'd be perfectly happy being home alone while I go out and do things. Yet, he'll reveal later on that he wishes he would have partied more, especially while in college, instead of staying in and playing video games. I suppose it's my job to remind him and keep things adventurous.
Sounds like your brother is the same way.
And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and gone tomorrow, won't he more surely care for you?- Matthew 6:30