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blackburry you're absolutely right. He doesn't see me as his equal, and there lies the problem. He wants to see me as his equal, but that doesn't happen over night, so it's stressing him out. This is why he desperately wanted me to join the military.
He and his ex wife met in the military. His ex was closer to his age, the same military rank as him, and made just as much money as him. He saw her as an equal, so, they did not face the same issues that we did (though, they had other issues).
This is why he sometimes regrets leaving her, and even blames me for it (fuck that). This girl was his backbone. She even paid his mortgage. Basically, he wants me to have a stable career and to be more "on it" so he can be comfortable starting a life with me. I'm working on doing this for myself, regardless of him, but this is not going to happen over night. I'm not going to all of the sudden make 60,000 a year. He should have thought twice about this before trying to date a girl in her early 20's... WHILE he was fucking married. But you know, if we break up, he will probably still try to date young girls like me, and face the same issues over and over (unless she is in the military or whatever).
I have a client at work who is a medical doctor who said that she was in the same situation when she was younger and in college. She dated an older guy who seemed to father her and constantly get on her case. She got fed up and finally left him. Now she is finally successful and makes great money. If he had not tried to push his ways on her so much, they could have probably worked out.