Originally Posted by
Galen
I would exclude the people I don't like because their presence acts as a new variable in whatever situation I'm in, and he/she only yields a worse total outcome. I know that sounds like a terrible thing to say, but there are very few people/situations out there that cause me to react this way. I guess I see the things in my environment in an emotionally-holistic way, where the introduction of each new data point must be taken into account and combined with everything else currently in my mind, thus resulting in a new experience of the situation as a whole. Each data point (person, object, w/e) carries its own weight behind it, and things that strike a greater influence on me will affect this holistic experience more than lesser things.
The problem here for me would be two-fold. First, American culture tends to look down upon men publicly expressing their affections for other people like that, and I'm probably a victim of that. Second, all cultural elements aside, for a deep sentiment to be expressed out in the open like that (assuming the sentiment exists in the first place) defeats its purpose. Part of it could just be me being a dirty E6 and hesitating on sharing myself like that, but I've always felt that if you feel a need to express that sort of shared sentiment with another person, then you're not actually "feeling" it. I can't take a feeling/sentiment I have towards something and put it on display, because to do so would mean detaching myself from the sentiment itself. This makes me generally uncomfortable because I feel like that objectified sentiment will then be subjected to other people's cognitive rationalizations about it, making me feel like they're putting words in my mouth or trying to tell me who I am (again, E6ishness could play into that paranoia about other people, but I figure if I was Ti valuing then the notion of this mechanism in and of itself wouldn't be cause for fear).