Playing "Safe" with PoLR

[FDG]

I don't dress "conservatively", but I have a fixed set of clothes I use over and over, which I know fits me well. So probably my answer is yes.

[InvisibleJim]

Essentially, that you play "safe" with your PoLR under circumstances in which you need to use it. ILI's play safe by being polite, LIE's by dressing conservatively, etc.

Have you ever noticed yourself playing "safe" with your PoLR?

I think you've got it in one. It allows me to be 'non confrontational' whilst challenging or expressing my views. Its really not my natural tendency and it takes a large effort on my part to think through what to do.

[Ave]

I don't dress "conservatively", but I have a fixed set of clothes I use over and over, which I know fits me well. So probably my answer is yes.

Same here.

[Azeroffs]

I don't dress "conservatively", but I have a fixed set of clothes I use over and over, which I know fits me well. So probably my answer is yes.

I do the same

[bionic]

polr here

I change my clothing every 2 years. I'd rather spend money on a trip than clothing since I find clothes to be a poor short term investment. I usually go for more high quality items of clothing that will last me over time because I don't like to constantly change it and it's better for long term use. When I do change clothing, I get ridiculously nervous about it and try to learn about dressing for my shape as opposed to the ultimate aesthetic. So I keep it simple in black and neutrals.

I won't even talk about chores. I have a post-it note on my TV that says "vacuum today" and I'm doing all that I can to avoid it.

I need to find a mexican maid...

[MisterNi]

Playing "safe" with PoLR is the main reason to have at least one dual or activity in your life, to help keep it covered.

[Ave]

Playing "safe" with PoLR is the main reason to have at least one dual or activity in your life, to help keep it covered.

Dual yes, but activity I think would draw attention to your polr in demanding situations.

[MisterNi]

Playing "safe" with PoLR is the main reason to have at least one dual or activity in your life, to help keep it covered.

Dual yes, but activity I think would draw attention to your polr in demanding situations.

How do you figure?

[Ave]

Dual yes, but activity I think would draw attention to your polr in demanding situations.

How do you figure?

Are you asking seriously? Well, I'll pretend you are. A person tends to control others activity through their seventh function, which in the case of activity partners is your polr. So your activity would tend to control your polr - I know Ive blasted ESTp's polr before, and theyve tried to hit mine which made me feel either controlled or really bad for days.

[MisterNi]

How do you figure?

Are you asking seriously? Well, I'll pretend you are. A person tends to control others activity through their seventh function, which in the case of activity partners is your polr. So your activity would tend to control your polr - I know Ive blasted ESTp's polr before, and theyve tried to hit mine which made me feel either controlled or really bad for days.

I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want being around anyone trying to control me through a polr hit. Being around ESFj isn't one trying to control the other. The only problems really are the typical j vs p issues which can be annoying for sure. That's an interesting idea though.

[force my hand]

Have you ever noticed yourself playing "safe" with your PoLR?

I think so... maybe?

I've always avoided being the centre of attention and have always felt uncomfortable in that role, but lately I find I am in that position so I employ a light-hearted dry wit or goofiness that matches the prevailing mood to deflect it. It works out very well!

[Ave]

MisterNi; From: http://www.socionics.com/rel/act.htm

Although overall interaction between partners is nice and easy, when it comes to fulfilling everyday duties and matters together, partners usually meet with many problems. Instead of solving the problems, Activity partners tend to give advice to each other on how to solve these problems, often affecting each others weak points.

[MisterNi]

MisterNi; From: http://www.socionics.com/rel/act.htm

Although overall interaction between partners is nice and easy, when it comes to fulfilling everyday duties and matters together, partners usually meet with many problems. Instead of solving the problems, Activity partners tend to give advice to each other on how to solve these problems, often affecting each others weak points.

OK, but that sounds more like activity partners give each other advice on how to address shortcomings from their polr, not actively attacking it, unless it were deliberate or bad advice.

[Ave]

MisterNi; From: http://www.socionics.com/rel/act.htm

OK, but that sounds more like activity partners give each other advice on how to address shortcomings from their polr, not actively attacking it, unless it were deliberate or bad advice.

I suppose, but "advice" on your polr is often interpreted as an attack, bceause the polr is so defensive and sensitive to "criticism".

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

IMO Expat had Ni polr not Si. =p He was an ESTj who thought he was an ENTj.

But I like his theory regardless. It makes sense intuitively. Although, other functions are working overdrive to cover up the polr anyway making 'using it' almost always a non-issue. Sort of like how if one part of your body shuts down, another part activates in higher gear. Unless you are in very specialized situations where it's required you to use it, but we value our independence too much for that.

Polr hits are simply more common in socialist environments where personality conflicts are more inevitable. ((Like a group therapy session, or talking specifically about psychological issues...)) This would include message boards as well.

[Gilly]

I don't dress "conservatively", but I have a fixed set of clothes I use over and over, which I know fits me well. So probably my answer is yes.

Ditto.

[Igxfl]

But surely we've all been in situations where the use of our PoLR is required, and failed to use it properly? I wonder if one would be inclined to protect it by having a basic level of competency in it...

I think I try to cover it with Ti and Fe, rather than actually using Te.

e.g.

Need to learn a lot of specific information - try to link them to some sort of overarching Ti concept, and try to understand that thoroughly enough to derive the specific information from. If that doesn't work, turn it into a perverted mnemonic.

Talking about finances and world news and other adult shit I don't want to know about - try to change the subject to gossip.

Yeah, I've always thought people dance around the POLR via the creative and HA, both of which can apply to a ignificant amount of related tasks.

[DirectorAbbie]

I live with my activity, and he does have the annoying habit of hitting my PoLR for idle conversation. So to "play it safe," I hardly ever talk to him anymore. I don't think there's ever a situation where I need to use .

[Igxfl]

I live with my activity, and he does have the annoying habit of hitting my PoLR for idle conversation. So to "play it safe," I hardly ever talk to him anymore.:.

WIN!

I think you can get through life fine missing any one element.

[pianosinger]

I can do easy math...Or, I'll try to figure out a way to break down a complex equation/problem into smaller components; when I can't do this, or can't find someone else willing to do it for me, I give up.

I also "cheat" a lot when doing puzzles like Sudoku, or Cross-sums, etc. I just don't want to think that hard.

On the other hand, I love challenges involving strategy, rather than logic.