tactfulness/tactlessness and
tactfulness/tactlessness are completely different, I'd say, but more-or-less equal overall...
I've been blind to
quite a few times before, one time due to me playing a basketball game - the game heated up, the ball escaped my control on a pass that should have went towards my teammate, and headed into a crowd of people, in particular his brother's girlfriend
me to her - "are you okay? everything alright?"
her to me - "yep, I'm ok!
"
me to her - "awesome awesome!
didn't mean to get you, I'm wiped out here!"
and then when the event could have resolved, a cousin of mine who wasn't involved in the game (not even as a spectator) interjected:
cousin to me - "did you say you're sorry?"
me to cousin - "wha-... she knows I didn't mean for that to happen, I think we all do..."
cousin to me - "you should still say you're sorry..."
me to cousin - "what good would
that do?
"
all this time of course, the game's not going on, no one's having a good time, and there's a confused vibe all around... the girl who got pegged (who's an athlete, and knows how things go down sometimes) seemed far more uncomfortable about the interruption than the flubbed pass that went her way... so eventually, me to the athlete girl:
me to her - "sorry about that
you know I didn't
mean for that to happen, right?"
she smiled back to me (she was smiling all when I was talking every time, but it got a little bigger, or something else of general approval happened)... the cousin left...
...and then the game continued!
Another odd F incident happened during that game, but not in a bad way at all - a shorter, sturdy dude was bringing on the defense, and my foot got mega stomped
him to me - "whoa... sorry, man... (stammering)
..."
me to him - "dude, you don't gotta feel bad about anything, you were in the zone, it happens!
you've got the D!"
He felt good after that and the game carried on, but I don't think I held
as something important then...