how do you feel after interacting with your benefactor?

[ashlesha]

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[Beautiful sky]

They are a feeling of warmth to me.

[Nowisthetime]

I feel like I need a break from them. But I am attracted to them somehow.

[Creepy-Snaps]

I can't win. No matter how hard I try.

But afterward, after getting away from them, and thinking about what they said, I find it quite helpful.

[pianosinger]

My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.

Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).

Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...

But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!

[Suz]

My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.

Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).

Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...

But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!

OMG... THAT'S MY MOM!!! She's not great about keeping the house spotless though. She's a bit of a packrat. She'll get upset though when the place is a mess and make everyone else clean up.

[Creepy-Snaps]

OMG... THAT'S MY MOM!!! She's not great about keeping the house spotless though. She's a bit of a packrat. She'll get upset though when the place is a mess and make everyone else clean up.

Not all "super moms" are ESFjs.

My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.

Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).

Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...

But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!

And we don't need this to turn into a thread describing what your Benefactor does. You can start another thread for personal experience with types, this thread is simply how you feel. Your last 2 sentences would have been enough:

But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!

Sorry to 'police' the forum like this, but I feel just describing ESFjs was way off topic. And I'm just curious too, how people feel after the interaction.

[Beautiful sky]

I can't win. No matter how hard I try.

But afterward, after getting away from them, and thinking about what they said, I find it quite helpful.

Notice how I wrote my post MD?

"They are a feeling of warmth to me."

This conveys the object in relation to me..Which is Fi.

[Creepy-Snaps]

Notice how I wrote my post WD?

"They are a feeling of warmth to me."

This conveys the object in relation to me..Which is Fi.

It's MD, not WD.

And yes... I stopped arguing your type a while ago. I do believe you're INFj. And that we're conflictors. Why would you derail this thread, by changing the topic to what type you are?

[Beautiful sky]

It's MD, not WD.

And yes... I stopped arguing your type a while ago. I do believe you're INFj. And that we're conflictors. Why would you derail this thread, by changing the topic to what type you are?

It was an informative lesson.

[Creepy-Snaps]

It was an informative lesson.

Well thank you for the informative lesson which I didn't need.

[Slacker]

Love ESEs. I have lots of ESE friends, and they make me feel energized and happy.

I would say this might be different based on the specific benefactor pair.

[Exodus]

I generally feel good hanging out with them, although they tend to annoy me also. I feel like the are a bit self-involved, they are living in their own world and I'm kind of outside of that world on the fringes somewhere.

Whoa, that's a really good description. It's like they'll call upon you when they need you, but otherwise you're just kind of hanging out.

[Slacker]

Oh, I thought of one negative feeling I sometimes get from ESEs. Sometimes it feels like they don't take me very seriously. It takes a long time to prove that I know what I'm talking about. Once I've proven myself, things are ok, but until they know me pretty well, they don't take me seriously and dismiss what I say pretty easily.