Looking for an ENFj female

[discojoe]

Must be:

Emotionally stable. Yeah, scratch that. Asking too much.

Perceptive enough to see through me.

Intelligent on a level that is close to mine, same as mine, or higher than mine.

Willing to verbally spar with me.

Someone who enjoys physical, sexually charged play fighting.

At least 6/10 in physical attractiveness.

Super appreciative of how thoughtful and courteous I am. For example, how I take care of people close to me when they get sick, whether they want me to or not.

Willing to put up with my high level of eccentricity.

Interesting to talk to about stuff.

Someone who likes to spend lots of time 1-on-1 having long conversations.

No older than 40. That's right.

Educated enough to talk about the arts.

Someone who enjoys at least moderately rough sex as well as the tender shit.

Really talkative and have a fun sense of humor. For example, you'll laugh when I say "What the hell?!!!" upon spotting a fat man eating apple pie at a bus stop.



IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN THOUGH SO FUCK THIS SHIT

[07490]

discojoe I think I am qualify for this. Pm me when you are ready.

[discojoe]

Pm me when you are ready.

lmao

[Beautiful sky]

It will happen

[Timeless]

Maritsa33 and discojoe sitting on a tree, D-U-A-L-I-Z-I-N-G.

[Filambee]

I know someone that meets this description... well except for the female part.

[07490]

I miss you.

I guess this means you are going to dump your SLE .

[silverchris9]

I'm trying to think if I know any EIEs who meet that criteria. I know a guy who fits all the criteria except the play fighting (I mean, I don't know if he likes it rough, but he looks kinda like he would). I know an ESE, but she wouldn't put up with your high levels of eccentricity (and I think she's got herself an LII anyway). Also she's chubby. How do you feel about pretty face large boobs but overweight? Most of the EIEs I know are crazy-ass theater girls. Most of them are pretty enough (vast majority are at least 5s or higher). There's one who seems EIE, but then sometimes I wonder if she isn't just an alpha extrovert, heavy on the Fe, light on the Fi. Also she's probably a three or a four if I'm being honest (and assuming normal distribution---actually, given that girls are pretty, I would say it should really be a bell curve with the apex at 6 or 5.75 rather than right in the middle. I would say the majority of girls are capable of looking hot under the right circumstances; I mean, not Angelina Jolie Megan Fox Scarlett Johansson hot but hot). Yeah, honestly, most of the EIEs I know are really weird but weird in kind of a conventional way. But assuming you're less weird irl (at least at first) than on the interwebz (I sure as hell am), I think I've come up with at least one girl that fits your criteria.

Honestly, most of the EIEs I know are dudes, though (also theater kids).

[Jenna]

I think I know a girl who fits this but I'm not sure about her intelligence.. And she's not single, and she lives in iowa. So I'm not sure how you two will work out.

Actually I know another EIE female who is pretty similar to the one above but she's not single either :| think she is the same age as you too

[Gilly]

lawl I know an EIE who meets these criteria.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Emotionally stable. Yeah, scratch that. Asking too much.

lol what does emotionally stable mean anyway? Emotions are something that are naturally in flux, no matter who you are.

Perceptive enough to see through me.

You are an insecure mama's boy who boosts up your own accomplishments when really all you want is love. And passionate sex. You want 'passionate sex' more than you want rough sex. You say you want rough sex in front of the fellas so you look cool but you just want something that is passionate and intense, not really rough. You also are pretty whoreish and sexual/slutty for a guy, and part of you wants to be treated like a girl, but in a rough manly way.

Intelligent on a level that is close to mine, same as mine, or higher than mine.

Hate to burst your ego but you're not all that smart. Very smart yes, but there are so many people smarter than you. And I'd say though yeah that's a given.

Willing to verbally spar with me.

That just gets tiring after awhile. Unless it leads to sex.

Someone who enjoys physical, sexually charged play fighting.

Yes please!

At least 6/10 in physical attractiveness.

This one isn't that hard to follow.

Super appreciative of how thoughtful and courteous I am. For example, how I take care of people close to me when they get sick, whether they want me to or not.

lol aw that's really sweet. See, you're a teddy bear at heart and you should show it more, it's honestly really attractive.

Willing to put up with my high level of eccentricity.

Being too weird is kinda babyish and a turn off though.

Interesting to talk to about stuff.

A lot of 'interesting people' aren't really worth getting to know because of how psychotic they are, and a lot of 'dull people' are worth getting to know because of how stable and responsible they are. But it's sorta a balance to me.

Someone who likes to spend lots of time 1-on-1 having long conversations.

I do. =) But I'm a boy.

No older than 40. That's right.

lol... Joy. I wonder what she's up to these days...

Educated enough to talk about the arts.

You have to be 'educated' to have an opinion on art???

Someone who enjoys at least moderately rough sex as well as the tender shit.

Yes. I'm all for moderately rough sex but nothing that gets too out of hand. It's hot to kinda psychologically get under each other's skin and then fuck each other, which is sort of what you seem to be attracted to? That's why you were into Joy, because she is like that. You probably are scaring people away because you seem to come on too aggressively but then you talk about 'what a nice guy you are.' I mean really, who is gonna buy that one? And then you try to emotionally manipulate them later. It's antisocial and rather creepy, nothing really 'hot' about it, maybe in your own head. YMMV, of course.

Really talkative and have a fun sense of humor. For example, you'll laugh when I say "What the hell?!!!" upon spotting a fat man eating apple pie at a bus stop.

lol that's mean and bullyish though. The girl would just sorta laugh at you if you did that and slap you on your arm and say 'be nice.' Girls aren't really attracted to bullies, unless they are insecure themselves. Unless they have lots of money maybe? I mean really a lot of money. I would just /facepalm for you if you did that in real life but that sounds like a good joke at a comedy club or something.

[discojoe]

lol what does emotionally stable mean anyway? Emotions are something that are naturally in flux, no matter who you are.

I think you know what I mean. Don't be coy.

You are an insecure mama's boy

Uhhh, I'm sure you can twist words into some distortion of reality in order to make it sound like I'm a mama's boy, but I doubt that I possess any sort of unusually strong closeness to or dependency on my mother. What closeness there is is only natural: she gives lots of Fe, I'm the youngest, and our genders are opposite. So it makes perfect sense that we'd be close, but again, I don't think that we share any kind of oedipustic relationship whatsoever.

who boosts up your own accomplishments when really all you want is love.

I don't know what accomplishments you're referring to. Meh, whatever you say. (Bad grammar up there too lolololol)

The love thing is generally accurate, but it's not as clean-cut or elementary as you make it sound.

And passionate sex. You want 'passionate sex' more than you want rough sex.

Yeah.

You say you want rough sex in front of the fellas so you look cool

No. When I want to look cool, that's not the sort of thing I say.

You also are pretty whoreish and sexual/slutty for a guy, and part of you wants to be treated like a girl, but in a rough manly way.

I'm not whorish at all. Not in the least. I'm extremely conservative about conveying any sort of sexually charged signals.

Hate to burst your ego but you're not all that smart. Very smart yes, but there are so many people smarter than you. And I'd say though yeah that's a given.

I'm in the 99th percentile. I'm not bragging about it, it's just a fact. My psychiatrist dabbles in IQ testing, and he says he thinks my IQ is anywhere between 145 and 159. And a result of it is that I don't have many fulfilling interactions with people. I know there are people smarter than I, and I don't give a shit. I'd gladly be with someone with an IQ of 200 if it meant that she fit my criteria.

I know it sounds like I'm unloading all kinds of insecurities saying these things, but I don't think I am. My perception of myself is mainly jargon, white noise. ADD has robbed much of my ability to steer my thoughts in a chosen direction. My position on my own intelligence is that it is what it is, I can't do anything about it, and shaming myself or boasting to others is an eyebrow-raising waste of time.

That just gets tiring after awhile. Unless it leads to sex.

Straw man: I never said I wanted to do it relentlessly. Once or twice a day would be good.

lol aw that's really sweet. See, you're a teddy bear at heart and you should show it more, it's honestly really attractive.

I show it around people I like. If you're a friend and in distress, I will go out of my way to help you. I only hesitate when the propriety of my actions feels questionable, since I don't really have a filter when it comes to offering my services. I just perceive the situation in stark black and white.

Being too weird is kinda babyish and a turn off though.

I'm not babyish, I don't really do it on purpose, and I have found that EIEs don't really give a shit.

You have to be 'educated' to have an opinion on art???

Art =/= the arts. And no, at least not in an academic sense.

That's why you were into Joy, because she is like that.

Joy isn't even remotely like that.

You probably are scaring people away because you seem to come on too aggressively but then you talk about 'what a nice guy you are.' I mean really, who is gonna buy that one?

I don't do that unless it's with people I'm not interested in. If I am interested in someone, I carry myself in a dignified, polite manner accompanied by a touch of orneriness. I try to make them laugh and to talk about themselves.

I certainly don't act weirdly aggressive and plead that I'm a fairy boy underneath the layers of caustic, abrasive arrogance. That's a breed of behavior that only spurs into being when I am deeply disturbed by some kind of (usually unknown) antagonist.

And then you try to emotionally manipulate them later.

What do you mean by this, and why is it bad?

lol that's mean and bullyish though. The girl would just sorta laugh at you if you did that and slap you on your arm and say 'be nice.' Girls aren't really attracted to bullies, unless they are insecure themselves. Unless they have lots of money maybe? I mean really a lot of money. I would just /facepalm for you if you did that in real life but that sounds like a good joke at a comedy club or something.

In my experience, many EIEs think it's funny as shit to say things like that, as long as it's not done 24/7. And I don't act like a bully toward people, at least not on purpose.


And now I shall do you, as it were.

Short and sweet: You are insecure about your physical appearance, and you compensate for it by jumping in and asserting psychological dominance, sort of like casting a spell, diverting attention away from what you don't want seen. If you're at the helm, you can steer thoughts away from those areas you're scared may come into view and then (unthinkably!) into focus.

That is why you make comments designed to bring me down a peg. You find me attractive and want my standards to be brought down to a level that you're scared you inhabit. Any higher and you'd fear having certain "classes" of people out of reach. You attempt to accomplish this by employing your aforementioned psychological influences, to make certain subjects purely noncognitive in the mind of the case on whom you're working.

[Gilly]

ahahahaha dj will be alone forever.

[discojoe]

ahahahaha dj will be alone forever.

Fuck off.

[Gilly]

Fuck off.

nyah nyah

[Gilly]

i sarry deej

me hasin bad days

[discojoe]

i sarry deej

me hasin bad days

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