From a general standpoint people differ in their personal tastes and satisfaction in terms of finding the right one. With the impression of discovering my perfect women I have glossed over the descriptions of relations and types only to be drawn in again to intensely examine and re-exame these same descriptions, as, I imagine, many here have done the same or similar on this forum. However socionics is not my only source for guidance. There is plenty of advisory and secret tips available on the internet to help single guys attract women. I consider myself rational and truthful and so, to my shame, I admit to having consulted astrology and numerology in that ancient search a man embarks on to find his other half. Socionics stands out from amongst the rest perhaps only for the very reason that they provide answers for free unlike cosmic capatilism and the secret guide to pick up chicks.
However, recently, I have had the unoriginal idea or thought stirring in my mind: how important is psychological compatibility when you consider all factors that constitute attraction?
Astrologers claim, we are who we are from birth, inwhich, the more precise our understanding of us entering the world and leaving the womb of our mothers reveals much of who we are and whom we are compatible with. In some respects the entirety of your life can be predicted based upon the astrology chart.
Science claims attraction is a natural phenomenon inwhich an interested individual performs mating rituals and secretes pheromones to 'convince' their potential mate of the worthiness of their sexual engagement. To further explain, attraction occurs on a genetic level bywhich one individual is attracted to another due to their genetic predisposition, that is to say, subconsciously we are seeking a more perfect bond to enhance our own health and survival by uniting with another individual who has immunity to all our own inherent weakness. To simplify, the science of sexual compatibility is equatable to reducing the world to minute and invisible but real and influential forces such as bacteria, viruses, germs, etc. From a scientific standpoint we literally breath each other in and subconsciously our bodies respond favourably or disfavourably in determining a genetic match suitable for sexual reproduction.
Convention claims there is rules of attraction and rules of dating that must be followed, in which, the violation of one or many of these rules calls into question the skill of the dater, and for those skilled at dating, they reep the benefits of enjoying a successful relationship. Futhermore, convention ideolizes sex to the point of unattainablity for many average people. For common people, beauty is a rarity as is deformity. Therefore without natural perfection people engage themselves in enhacing their attractiveness by means of artificiality with sometimes painfully devestating results, i.e. plastic surgery. Convention is the safest road by which many people venture.
Romantics claim true love is to allign ourselves with our own destiny inwhich we give our selves up, but not in wreakless haste, instead, we surrender ourselves to fate, entrusting that the good in us will inspire the good in others, inwhich, meeting our true love is like a spiritual relevation, like lost souls once again reunited. Romanticism is the most endearing and yet the least successful. More often than not, romance is scorned by convention due to the obvious failure and general inapplicability to society as a whole but the true romantic thrives on risk.
In my humble opinion I have represented numerous opinions sufficently into four basic points of view. I have undoubtedly failed due to the limit of my own imagination and intellect to fully grasp all that can be said and considered. However despite my own limitation I can thoughtfully consider is there a real primary factor that can resolve all points of view accounted for? We can love one with our hearts, one with our minds, one with our bodies and one with our souls but can we love one person to such an extent that we can not but love them with all of that makes us a person?
I ask myself: at what point does psychological compatibility begin to shape the decisions we take in choosing to be with someone? Does psychological attraction begin only after astrology has given us the go ahead? or does it begin once nature has almost mystically swayed our judgment in favour of this one person over another? or does it begin when we have earned proper standing as skilled in the art of seduction, committment, communication, charm, style, physique, wit, humour, dance, occupation and seemingly the ability to hide from our own vulnerability? (which, so happens to be, the real standard of convention) or lastly does psychological compatibility begin only after we can clarify the loftest of romantic ideals as we are compelled to admit "we are together because we are meant to be together"? To sum up: is psychological compatibility all that is needed or can we truly be with someone without psychological compatibility even though they are the perfect match according to astrology, science, convention and romance?