1. how would you say the concept of "merging" manifests for you in as real-world, concrete language as possible? anecdotes appreciated.

2. how do you feel about being really seen? would you say this is an issue for you? how much do you show and how much do you hold back, and why?

3. would you describe yourself as being nice and passive in general? how would your self-description in this regard line up with how other people would describe you?

4. do you always avoid conflict, under any circumstances? do you ever enjoy it? what would make the difference for you?

5. how would you describe disintegration and integration?

i have lots of questions, but i don't want to overload and scare people from answering. this will do.