the down side of duality

[Joy]

You get used to having someone cover your weak areas and can end up sorta dependent on your dual. And vice versa.

[redbaron]

however, I will say that while that may be true in the beginning, I believe that over time you take on the traits of your dual, becoming more like them. That's what happened to my IEI brother and SLE sister-in-law. They've been together for 20 years now. While they each have their individual talents, it does feel as if they can step into the other's shoes if need be and they are more "whole" than undualized persons.

[Joy]

sweet

[golden]

Yeah, I think what you're describing, Joy, is more like what happens with your conflictor. My ex was strong where I was weak, and vice versa, but we could not help each other grow or change. Stalemate and decline.

[Joy]

shitty

[Gilly]

Yea your dual doesn't just cover your ass; being around them actually helps you develop your weak points. What you describe sounds more like super-ego or benefit.

[discojoe]

Yea your dual doesn't just cover your ass; being around them actually helps you develop your weak points.

Yeah, this is my experience. EIEs actually teach me how to feel things, they don't just smooth shit over after I call someone a whore.

[1981slater]

You get used to having someone cover your weak areas and can end up sorta dependent on your dual. And vice versa.

Joy, it is specialization at work what caused the human beings on this planet to achieve higher standards of living. In the year -54654654654, a person had to fish, hunt, be a soldier, a bricklayer...at the same time, with limited success at most of these fields. Nowadays, people have only one job (unless you are a Superhero: Luke Skywalker, farmer, pilot, Jedi Knight and Captain Solo's friend) and this makes all of us more productive.

However, it's a good idea to develop one's weak functions. I can't cook

[UDP]

what perchance could it be then, that maketh a relationship fulfilling?

Dost this declare that it neither 'tis nor 'tis not thine legendary duality?

Must it be, yes, a thing greater than the confines of the mighty socionics?

Alas,


it is so.


oooooooooooooooooooo

[redbaron]

lol

[Blaze]

infpman and i were saying the other day that we are dualizing in a sense. he said he has become more risk taking, more extraverted since being with me. but he is not sure it's a good thing....since it's Ne type of risk taking. lol.

when you spend a lot of time with somebody, they rub off on you and you become more like them. this might not be related to duality. but i bet this process feels most congruent with a dual, kind of like, oh this is the woman i always WANTED to be...!!! whereas with a non dual, you'd be like, "is this really me the way i'm acting?"

in a way duals are in balance with each other but out of balance with others, since they are reinforcing each other's quadra values. how do we compare this process to a non dualized couple? i think there's a certain separation that occurs when the couple is non dualized. kind of like you go deal with those people and i'll deal with these people. you have to translate some of their communication through your own quadra values.

[discojoe]

It's funny when your dual dies of cancer after you've been with them for fifteen years.