What do you guys think of duality outside of romance? What's the relationship like? There's generally a limit on intimacy, and as such on the benefits of duality, but aside from that, pretty cool, no?
Non-Romantic Duality
What do you guys think of duality outside of romance? What's the relationship like? There's generally a limit on intimacy, and as such on the benefits of duality, but aside from that, pretty cool, no?
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
I prefer EII friends to EII mates. They're really nice people, easy to get along with, and often fun.
Hmm........then who do you prefer as mates?Originally Posted by DirectorAbbie
EII - Ne
5w6 sp/so/sx
don't worry, I prefer EIIs as mates .. ... ...
Hmm........then who do you prefer as mates?
Most of the SLIs I've known have just been friends. I've only dated one for a long period of time. One of my friends I can tell anything to. He and I have had the best conversations. If I could imagine the kind of marital relationship I want, that would be it. Another one and I seem to be forming a natural business partnership. Honestly, my dual friendships have been way better than my dual boyfriend. As in intimacy. I got the feeling that my ex was sort of afraid of a woman taking over his life or something. *eye roll* Therefore, he was rather distant. My friends don't have those inhibitions weighing on their minds.
Overall I find duality pretty fulfilling. I have to say that my EII best friend hears the full brunt of things when I'm really emotional about something. I don't really let that go around SLIs.
IEE
It happens.
Lol, so LSEs are capable of humour after all.
Who knew.
EII - Ne
5w6 sp/so/sx
I haven't decided yet.Hmm........then who do you prefer as mates?
Ryu, that is possibly the first time I have seen you use a smiley.
EII - Ne
5w6 sp/so/sx
Abbie, maybe you just haven't met the right EII yet.
EII - Ne
5w6 sp/so/sx
That's the first time I've seen the following smiley in context.Ryu, that is possibly the first time I have seen you use a smiley.
It's great, IMO. I also really enjoy all the intra-quadra relations because they seem like brothers and sisters, kind of. I have a realllly good SLI female friend who is totally like my sister and that's a nice feeling - we talk about relationships and help each other out with lots of things, we're objective parties when it comes to drama in other areas, etc. And IEEs are a lot of fun to work with and are very smooth when it comes to people and social situations. EIIs are great because they are someone who shares your disposition and you can get good feedback even if there is no emotional involvement or connection there.
I don't know about limiting the relationship because it's not romantic. It doesn't go to its 'full potential', but I think that's how most relationships that are non-romantic go. I think there are tons of practical benefits to having duals that are non-romantic - especially if they have similar life-paths or values or interests as you. In those cases, I feel like duals and other intra-quadra relationships can be seemingly invaluable. They are the people I tend to find myself wanting to seek out the most and stay in touch with the most.
I had some good friends in highschool who were ESTp. we would have alot of fun causing trouble / drinking / skateboarding. Really a fun relationship..
my best friend is ESE. my experience with duality has always been in the context of friendship. it's great - she befriended me, despite how scary i appeared (or so she says) and i really did not need to do much to obtain the friendship, and it always felt comfortable. she always appreciated my thoughts, which i now realise is her Ti seeking. much of my learned ability to cope socially was learned by watching her, because she was good at it, and i trusted her not to be doing it as a fake front, which i cannot stand observing let alone copy.
What do you mean by a fake front?
fake front, is like the sociability that is really just put on for appearance, but isn't really felt, not from within. a social convention that one performs because it is expected. sometimes wielded as a social weapon, and not to connect people. you know how a lot of social people, like ESFp's for example, would smile and 'air kiss' and hug people they despise, as though they're really the tightest of friends? i can't stand that. i understand it makes perfect sense to them as in the appearance of social gregariousness and agreeableness - especially to more socially higher-ranked people - is more important than internal consistency, but i still can't stand it.
Ugh. Just reread this thread and remembered how much Shag pissed me off. Maybe he is delta after all. But then again, pirate was sure he was delta too, lol.
Anyway, thanks for the responses in this thread. Very interesting. Keep 'em coming!
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
I have a friendship with an IEI male that's totally non-sexual and non-romantic. I can't even begin to categorize it. In a way it's like he's my son... in a way a kid brother... in a way my best friend... in a way something more than all of that. I'm not ME without him. And vice versa. Here's a pic of us:
It's weird. It's like... we're lost without each other.
We didn't talk for like 3 or 4 months (long story), and we both sorta lost ourselves. He was super depressed... said he just sorta shut off. I was acting out like crazy... insane kinda crazy. Making horrible decisions. Then (through a weird story) I ended up asking him if he wanted to hang out, and we started talking again. We were both really happy to have each other back. Now the issues that we used to have (text book codependency type crap) are gone, and it's a very mutualistic relationship. And all it takes is a few hours of one on one and we're both totally ourselves again. In order to be psychologically balanced and healthy, we need to spend time around each other. We get each other out of ruts, and we energize each other in this peace-of-mind, content sort of way.We haven't seen each other in like a week and a half because I've been sick, and he used to pretty much live with me half the time (before my ESE ex moved in and started babysitting for free and taking up my apartment's one other sleeping spot, the couch). SIGH.
And we will never, ever, EVER be sexually or romantically involved.
Someone finally got it right. Why the fuck does everyone think that duality has to be romantic. thats soo short sighted. Duals are awesome. they help you out, they are basically the best friends you could ever have.
All of my relations with duals have been non-romantic. Most have been great. I've recently formed a friendship with a platonic dual and he's quickly becoming my best friend.
I don't see having one as a SO as necessary as much as it's good to have a dual in your life, in some capacity.
ime Duals are kinda more awesome outside romantic relationships (and requirements... attachments ....). If a friend or family, you can fully appreciate their personality and benefit from what they can naturally "teach" you. You don't go by their looks, chemistry, or other metrics too much... at least not in the same degree.
When I'm dating or literally in love with someone, I kinda never miss any "duality" ... getting how a type works can facilitate communication though...so mby not totally throw typology in the garbage bin.
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