How do ISFps deal with conflict?

[silverchris9]

Hey, so, I have a friend (dating an ILE) and I'm trying to determine if he's SEI or EII. My first intuition was SEI. He VIs SEI and he can be very emotionally expressive. In fact, one of the reasons I thought Fe-creative for him is because, like me, he is very emotionally expressive (big facial expressions and the like) in general interaction, but when he is concentrating on something, he isn't as emotionally expressive.

I'm certain he's either SEI or EII because he *clearly* doesn't value Se, is a clear introvert, and is a clear feeling type.

My big question is: how do SEIs deal with conflict, and to what degree are they interested in "everybody getting along"? I thought SEI for this guy because of the reasons given above, especially the bit about not valuing Se, and because he's in a very happy relationship (it seems) with an ILE. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that he's very interested in keeping people happy, keeping tempers down, keeping things calm, etc. Now, I know this can be associated somewhat with Si (relaxation and such), but it can also be related to Fi and Se polr. So... thoughts?

[Trevor]

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that he's very interested in keeping people happy, keeping tempers down, keeping things calm, etc. Now, I know this can be associated somewhat with Si (relaxation and such), but it can also be related to Fi and Se polr. So... thoughts?

It's what SEIs do. I think it's Fe.

[Creepy-male]

Fi bases have Fe ignoring, so they're much less interested in controlling how they come across to others, even to the point of abandoning diplomacy, which is something you're unlikely to see an SEI do (it's taken some big personal hurt to push me to not caring how I come across and just releasing my emotions unmitigated).

And yes, I'm with tuturututu. I would say it's related to Fe (and specifically Fe creative), much moreso than Si. Therein may be the source of your confusion between whether you're dealing with an EII or an SEI. Don't forget, IEIs can equally be seen to be "diplomats" like their Business relatives.

I will add, perhaps the goals in Fe-creative diplomacy are marked by Quadra values. The base function there would provide the impetus: Ni demands avoidance of tactical stupidity (say, by making enemies in a rapidly splintering social environment), Si demands the quelling of conflicts disrupting its relationship with its world.

[Mediator Kam]

Hey, so, I have a friend (dating an ILE) and I'm trying to determine if he's SEI or EII. My first intuition was SEI. He VIs SEI and he can be very emotionally expressive. In fact, one of the reasons I thought Fe-creative for him is because, like me, he is very emotionally expressive (big facial expressions and the like) in general interaction, but when he is concentrating on something, he isn't as emotionally expressive.

The bolded describes me very well.

However, in terms of conflict, I never want people to be angry at me or anything. I tell you time and time again, my mother used to always say "When you were like 3-4 and were mischievous, you would always ask "Are you mad at me mommy?" when you would do something wrong." Even today, when I criticize someone, I hold the hope in my heart that we can still have cordial relations.

[silverchris9]

Excellent. Problem solved. Case Closed. Thank you, alphas! I had forgotten about that whole super diplomatic Fe-creative business. Alright! Now I have two members of my a capella group typed (not including me). I think that means twelve or so to go. Yay!