Attention
What is you opinion on receiving attention? Here are some senarios you can respond to; feel free to add more to the list.
More attention to your work from your boss than is given to coworkers?
Guys teasing you?
Girls teasing you?
Peers bugging you to go stand on the sidewalk with them and talk about anything irrelevant to the current situation of the planet?
Girls whispering behind your back and pointing at you?
In general, I like attention, but it's no priority. If I can naturally maintain the center of attention, I enjoy doing so.
More attention to your work from your boss than is given to coworkers?
Depends. If I hadn't been working long that might make me nervous. "Why are they paying so much attention to me?" "Am I doing it wrong?" ..or.. it might make me proud. "Ah, I'll get recognized for how well I'm doing."
Guys teasing you?
Irritating.
Girls teasing you?
Fun. I'd tease back.
Peers bugging you to go stand on the sidewalk with them and talk about anything irrelevant to the current situation of the planet?
Depends on the topic and the people.
Girls whispering behind your back and pointing at you?
That would invoke a "What?"
My responses are pretty much the same as yours.
More attention to your work from your boss than is given to coworkers?
I'd like that. It would show that my boss considers me more capable.
Guys teasing you?
Depends. I'll put up with it. Sometimes I'm in the mood to like it.
Girls teasing you?
I like it, but with all teasing I only tease back if I know the person very well and am in the mood.
Peers bugging you to go stand on the sidewalk with them and talk about anything irrelevant to the current situation of the planet?
Weird. Can be annoying, but if the weather's nice and I'm very bored it might be welcome.
Girls whispering behind your back and pointing at you?
I probably have a paper bird in my hair or am wearing long colorful socks with shorts and sandals. I'll probably grin at them.
The gist of what I'm saying is that I don't feel comfortable being the center of attention or having most of the attention available. If I need to be the center of attention in a planned, fixed setting, for instance if I'm giving a speech, then it's ok and tolerable. In any other non-controlled environment, I feel awkward having the attention.Originally Posted by Director Abbie
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Hmm...looks like you don't like attention. Is there a circumstance where you welcome it?
It really depends on what kind of attention I suppose.
I don't have workplace experience, so I'll use school experience in its stead. Honestly I can feel a little uncomfortable being talked about by a teacher, regardless of whether what I said was correct or not. Granted it's always a nice feeling to be right, but the attention can be a tad overwhelming I suppose.
Guys teasing me:
Depends on my mood, who's doing it, and what kind of teasing it is. I'm generally not the biggest fan of teasing, unless it's very apparent that such teasing is done sarcastically. I'm generally pretty lenient about it with friends
Girls teasing me:
Same as above.
Peers bugging you to etc etc:
I'm not sure what "current situation of the planet" means, but I guess I don't mind idle chitchat. Again, depends on who the people are.
Girls whispering behind your back and pointing at you:
The only time this ever happened was in Japan, and I kinda welcomed the idea of being a foreigner so I didn't mind it. Were they American girls though, I'd probably feel at least somewhat uncomfortable.
Added something
Group Conversations:
Honestly group conversations can be weird for me, especially when we're discussing serious matters. If I ever decide to talk about something within a group of people I'm not all too familiar with, I can feel a bit uncomfortable. When a group's focus is directed at me, my instinctual thought is "why are they looking at me what did I do wrong I hope I don't say something stupid." It's something I can push through fairly easily, but the feeling is always there.
Sorry for the ninja editing of my post.
I do think that if I sensed that a friend enjoyed being around me and liked to spend time with me, I would greatly value that.
So, in very formal, structured situations, attention is just fine. In "hanging out" kind of situations where I'm just spending time doing random whatever with a friend, that kind of attention is valued.
In more spontaneous situations or if I'm not too familiar with the people giving me the attention, then I don't feel so comfortable.
ETA: Although if a good friend were to tease me or something, it wouldn't be so bad, but it would still be slightly awkward.
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