Whattup gang! Been reading through all the threads, but most of the discussions seem to revolve around healthy individuals and I've been wondering if anyone could help me with my dilemma involving an SLI who isn't in the best of positions...
My SLI and I got to know each other through my ex-best friend, an unhealthy EIE, who has since gone off the deep-end: she is extremely and unquestioningly manipulative, paranoid, vindictive, and overall a poisonous personality. Although it took me a while (two years! (I'm young)) to finally come to the conclusion that she is indeed a good person at heart but rather wicked otherwise, the SLI can't let go! Though forbidden by the EIE to see me, he's initiated contact and slipped out to see me on various occasions where he's admitted to me multiple times that he is "over her/over it"; he has broken up with her a number of times, but I think her hold over him keeps him transfixed and in the "relationship".
What's up with that?? I've been the good friend, being there when he needs me, giving him his space, et cetera, but his mood, motivation, sociability, and emotional balance has been incredibly affected by this EIE girl and I simply can't watch him from the sidelines as he further ruins his life, you know? I can see how this might be an extreme case of "waiting for the right time" to do his thing, but what if he needs a push? He has, playfully, on occasion asked me to take him away, but that goes against my character (and his, too, right??)--what else am I supposed to do?
I would appreciate any type of input regarding the situation... so complex! Thanks in advance (; Cheers!!!