I know with Betas in real life, I have offended them when it was not my intention to -- especially my ENFj sister. But yet, Betas often throw around insults and really mean-sounding things as banter and other Betas don't takes offense...I don't get that. Is that the difference between Fe and Fi? Can someone explain the Beta motivation and why it's ok to insult people w/o that being a problem?
I know it should be expected between Delta and Beta and the intertype relations, duh, but I don't understand it in a practical, non-theory, real way.
For instance, during the time I'm offending them/or vice versa, I don't understand what specifically is happening. I also can't seem to avoid offending them.
I usually don't have much of a problem with ESTps, because they are so straighforward. I've dated a few INFp guys and we didn't offend each other. And I've had several female ISTj friends over the years and that's been fine. But male ISTjs and female ENFjs...it's like an all out war....and I'm not sure why....