I have noticed that most of you guys don't see life as being "happy," in that you expect things to always go wrong, or that you are "assholes" and there is nothing you can do about it. It's this "spark" that's not there when I talk to them, like they just settle on being insensitive and dry. Like, "I'll get dumped sooner or later when she gets tired of me." It bothers me when they just don't try to improve on being more confident in expressing their loving side, like it's something wrong to do. I'm guessing that it's awkward for them? I do see that the females are more encouraged to be this way, though they might feel bad that it's not as open as other types. Is all of this just my perception? It's like I have to melt their hearts, as cheesy as it may sound . I know how to do it, but then the level of attachment to me might not be a good idea.