on tanehem's site, expat made an interesting sort of observation that whereas super-ego and polr hits can be painful and conflict-starting, they aren't truly psychologically devastating; they merely reflect areas that we are unconcerned with and that are perceived as a waste of time/unimportant/etc.
by constrast, the dual-seeking function reflects an area that we truly value and can't deal with. the idea is that hits to your dual-seeking function, by somebody confident in your super-id functions, are much more difficult to deal with.
expat gave the example of an EII buying a house, asking an SLI to do housework, and being informed that "you paid too much for this house, you'll never be able to get it working by yourself, and you should just try to sell it and get rid of it already since you have no idea how to keep it from falling apart and can't make rational economic decisions."
this example is rather obviously geared towards Si and Te problems. the idea is that these problems represent such fundamental uncertainty and difficulty towards an EII that they can't handle this type of criticism at all.
i created this thread primarily to ask about what you people think about the ILI one that i created, which i can't post right now because i literally have about three seconds to finish this, but it has to do i think with SeFi problems. i'll post this later.