Hi, @
Scarlett. Nice to see you again.
I think our Imago comes from some very early experience. In my case, my Imago looks a lot like your avatar picture because my LSE mother looked a lot like that when I was four or five.
I've since moved on to overruling the lizard brain.
I don't feel an immediate attraction to my Duals. I can immediately recognize most of them by now, both male and female, but I'm not sexually attracted to the females (or the males. Just for the record.).
Instead, I find them to be very comfortable to be around. And the more I'm around them, the more I realize that I need to have them around. I want to make their lives better because they make my life better, and if that includes sex, I'm in.
For immediate sexual attraction, to me, LSI women have it. I mean, it's like falling down easy. Just hang around them and enjoy them and it'll happen.
At least, it used to, before I decided to not allow myself to do that anymore.
In contrast, I try and I try with ESIs and I'm drawing a blank.
Maybe I'm really ILE. FML.