Can anyone help me figure out my type? I'm lost.
Hey, I'm new here and one of the first things I wanted to do was to get advice on my own typology. For background I'm 19 years old, female. I have followed the natural rhythm of my writing here, so I apologise if things don't make sense or don't have much link to typology. Here's some info about me.
-I naturally incline towards seeing through people rather than seeing them truly. That sounds odd so I'll explain - I condense, catalogue and attempt to understand people through my impressions of them. Often, after a few interactions I feel I can understand what kind of person they are, how they react to things.
-I seek to caretake on issues I feel really matter- those being issues that are mental and emotional. Let me offer solutions for your psychological issues for you, let me build an ideal vision for your future. I can offer direction on where to go next, validate and understand people's feelings. I like to motivate and steer people, but I do not care much about cheering others up unless they are very close to me. I want to help people with their psychological needs, but I do not care about their physical needs, that's their problem. I'm good at convincing people to do things.
-In arguments and debates I break opposing point of views down into components. My aim is rarely to counter someone with plain facts, facts to me seem black and white, rigid and overly simple. My citations are malleable, if I quote an expert opinion it will rarely be the words they actually said, but the impression or generalisation I got from what they said moulded to support my argument. I instead attempt to break their belief down to the core, I ask where does it stem from. I attempt to make the opponent see the flaws in their own thought processes, before convincing them of my own- I am very persuasive. I tend to generalise a lot and try to come up with universal laws in my own mind. But with things like debates and arguments I feel a need to win, and a need to always be right.
-Everyone has layers, myself included. Yet despite being surrounded by others I feel Impenetrable, distant. On the surface, to acquaintances, co-workers and classmates I come across shy, meek, polite, pleasant, mild, scattered, insecure and unsure of myself, I say things in an unsure tone and come off very friendly. I function on the surface in an agreeable way. To those a little closer to me such as friends I'm quite different. I come off edgy, jovial, light-heartedly mean or teasing, sarcastic and have been told that. But even then I have a social awareness, I never offend. My behaviour is intended to entertain and make others laugh- I am very aware of how what I say will be received and responded to and feel a responsibility to entertain others and be loud when needed, I have a desire to be liked. To only my closest friends and family members can I show greater authenticity - I can share my depth and introspections, feel little need to entertain and can be comfortable being distant as I know I do not need to take on a position of host or jester with people who know me well. I require space alone, to analyse what I think and feel. I can be moody, and despite how I come across on the surface to others I am very serious in my own mind, and have been called wise.
-I desire to be taken care of psychologically too. To me love is not affection, or doing things for someone else. These are things that are nice, but only material. To me love is seeing someone's core, understanding them truly including the flaws in their heart and embracing them anyway, providing warmth and comfort, saying everything is going to be okay. If I am not loved in this way, I do not desire love at all. In a way I have a childish desire to be coddled and hugged. I don't like harsh reality checks or "motivation". Things said to inspire others such as a blunt "get up and work" approach only make me crumble, I become more complacent and anxious. By contrast, being given leniency allows me to feel most understood and accepted.
-My attitude towards working in general is unfit for the world. I do not desire to work on things, I prefer to get them done as quickly as possible with as little effort as possible to move onto the next thing, unless I am trying to impress someone like an employer. I will procrastinate until the very last moment, and then conjure something up right at the end. On the surface, I take orders pleasantly and with a smile, but under the surface being told what do leads an anger and resentment to boil up inside me, and I hate that I have to follow orders just to live in settings such as work.
-I feel I have a purpose or hidden mission inside me somewhere waiting to be uncovered, but I am unaware of what it is. Maybe I only believe this because it's what western media and culture tells us all- we can all change the world, we can all be great. But I believe that's true, I believe we all have potential to change the world. I have goals, goals to travel and learn languages and be happy, but goals are not purpose.
-To be honest, I am not very smart or present. I struggle to exist without being caught up in my own mind. Even if at times I am thinking of nothing, I do not take that as an opportunity to be present but rather I rest my mind in the blankness and stare off. Being present and in the moment requires a lot of active effort for me, and its too much work.
-I have an acute self awareness, can believe in things that make little sense such as fate or destiny, messages from the universe et cetera whilst being aware of the fact that it's not very logical. I have an external locus of control and trust the judgements of others more than my own on some issues.
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