We always do
No, look, it's not that dramatic, you just need a strong personality to handle IEI. If you're strong-willed, assertive and don't put up with crap (and you seem exactly like that), there shouldn't be any problems. When the guys are like that I'm perfectly capable of having a normal relationship. Besides, if the guy is in his 30's I'm sure he matured at least some.
If you see him trying to push-pull you just call him on it and he will respect you for it. And never look desperate, but you don't look like the type.
And I'm sure there's some drama free IEI's out there, I just thing that "victims" in general need some tough love from time to time, not just nicey-nice predictability.
And don't worry too much, if it feels right, than it most likely is.
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