Projection is ordinary. Person A projects at person B, hoping tovalidate something about person A by the response of person B. However, person B, not wanting to be an obejct of someone elses ego and guarding against existential terror constructs a personality which protects his ego and maintain a certain sense of a robust and real self that is different and separate from person A. Sadly, this robust and real self, cut off by defenses of character from the rest of the world, is quite vulnerable and fragile given that it is imaginary and propped up through external feed back. Person B is dimly aware of this and defends against it all the more, even desperately projecting his anxieties back onto person A, with the hope of shoring up his ego with salubrious validation. All of this happens without A or B acknowledging it, of course. Because to face up to it consciously is shocking, in that this is all anybody is doing or can do and it seems absurd when you realize how pathetic it is.
Socionics experiment: night at the ballroom
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Originally Posted by Bullets
E4 would try to make themselves even more different and experiences twice the backlash. The only way they could enjoy it would be through having a "saviour" figure around, or an opportunity to vent. E6 - the most difficult case - would have nobody who could offer them guidance making them go paranoid (if they are counterphobic --> see @
). E8 would either go Hulk & crash the party or hide in a e5-like fashion. In the Hulk scenario, they WOULD exit the gala earlier either on their own or because they are escorted out by the police, caging them in would be very difficult. E9 would simply break down at the disharmony they perceive, especially since they cannot withdraw :/ If they have a good attitude, they CAN blend in perfectly, although it may be taxing.
I would spend the evening in small conversations to figure these people out individually, more listening than talking so I know what's up. I would observe the general habitus and select the best elements of it to bond with people. Another aspect I would consider, I would go for the synflow members and look for E7. E7 is the paragon of every group so knowing them will help me understand the crowd at large. Befriending them will give me reputation also and get me acquainted/established, even if it's for a short time like this. Either way, I would not become suicidal but very excited, it's a good opportunity to test my acting skills. Also, even if I don't feel good there, 4 hours are manageable. I survived 12 years of school where many people seemed to have values completely opposite to me, so this should be easy 
