
Originally Posted by
astralsilky
OK, I'll share a few observations, anyway.
I have grown to feel affection for one particular ISTp I know well. He married into the family. We admire and respect each other a great deal. This seems mutual. However, when we interact we seem to bore each other. The conversations are one-sided, either him always talking, or me. He expresses a lot of questions and concerns about the consequences of actions and future events (e.g., use of natural resources), the details of which I just assume much more naturally and quickly in my thinking, and so this quality in him repeatedly bores me because he is so slow and deliberate in his approach. It's like he'll ask the question but won't go from there - won't consider any real possible ANSWERS. I kindly listen, but lose energy to contribute. It's like he doesn't quite hear me. When I share my interests and such, well, he's not so interested usually and will often leave the room. Nevertheless, we are actually fond of each other and express admiration for specific qualities in each other quite openly. Anyway, he is insatiable when it comes to sweets. It's unbelievable. He leaves food messes all over the place, which I might not entirely notice were it not for another member of the family always pointing it out. Unbelievably soft for "cute" pets, he'll often show you computer printouts of the latest puppy or kitten photo he found online. Or go on adoring his current pets. He has never been the generous sort, incredibly stingy on gifts. He saw my ongoing generosity as something ... that he just hadn't seen before. It is interesting how I have pulled in the reins (a tad bit) over time, and he has now discovered the joy of giving a bit more, I think. He's been showing his wife with small gifts all the time now. It's quite remarkable.