This is a VERY astute comment. I have an interest in an ISTp guy and when we hang out together with mutual friends, it's fun, relaxing and goofy. But when it's stressful e.g. his ex is in the picture somehow, he goes into shut down mode and it's awful. Thankfully his ex, who is a hyper analytical, stressed out ENFj, is leaving the country! Their interaction shows me how bad an ISTp-ENFj conflicting relationship can be! ENFj's strike me as too pushy and wanting to 'cling' to their partner which would drive me bonkers - and certainly drove this particular ISTp around the bend!