Duality in friendships, non-romantic dual relations

[FDG]

My roommate is INTp... Can you say outburts of crticism?

Haa, it's the same for my INTp friend. It's pretty cute to watch. Hmmm..

But I think he's totally cute. I'm just wishing his dominant function is instead of

You wish he had sex with you instead of just thinking about it?

[Park]

My roommate is INTp... Can you say outburts of crticism?

Haa, it's the same for my INTp friend. It's pretty cute to watch. Hmmm..

But I think he's totally cute. I'm just wishing his dominant function is instead of

You wish he had sex with you instead of just thinking about it?

Haha

[Rick]

ive noticed that a lot of the duality discussions on this forum are concerned with just romantic relationships, at least they end up being this way. i just had to bring up the point that some of my best friends are istp and i can definatly relate to the duality thing on a pure friendship level. while there is no romantic interest in the relationship, duality can still be benificial in a lot of ways.

comments are welcome

This is definitely true. People just "assume" that duality is about romantic relationships. Actually, socionics seems to work just as well if not better among people of the same sex, where there is no additional biological program involved (although, of course, there can be additional competitiveness between people of the same sex).

So yeah, people need to start thinking about duality as relations of friendship and cooperation and not some kind of idealized romance.

I have had a number of SLI friends, and there has always been a lot of teamwork, support, and respect. My only other really close friendships have been with LSEs and the occasional long-distance identical friendship .

Dual friendships, just like any others, can be circumstantial or long-lasting. If there's no strong common interest or background, it'll probably end when circumstances separate you, no matter how good it was.

[Ms. Kensington]

Have you experienced a dual relationship outside of your romantic relationship? Does this create problems for your romantic relationship?

[Blaze]

hell i can't even find a dual for a romantic relationship not to mention just a friend! this bit about seeing your dual is a bitch.

but to answer your question, if the the dual partner was the same sex as the dual friend, there might be a problem due to jealousy issues. but if the dual friend was the opposite sex of the dual partner, it could be good. wouldn't it be great to have all that duality in one's life?

[Jarno]

Yes I've got a colleague, a male, we are pretty good friends. Somewhat a special bond.

[redbaron]

One of my casual friends is my dual. In fact, he is the only ESTp I know irl. My husband and I are friends with him and his wife. I can see how we get along really well--I've never had a relationship of any sort with someone who is my dual before so it's definitely interesting. There seems to be a sort of quietness when we are together that's really odd. Like we don't have to talk but it doesn't feel awkward (and I keep thinking it *should* feel awkward). I don't see him very often and I'm sure it's just as well!

[Gilly]

One of my best nearly-lifelong friends is an SEI. We get along incredibly well. We've never had a conflict or confrontation of any kind whatsoever. We always have a good time together; only trouble is we don't usually get into anything especially interesting together (that's what my Beta friends are for ).

[meatburger]

There seems to be a sort of quietness when we are together that's really odd. Like we don't have to talk but it doesn't feel awkward (and I keep thinking it *should* feel awkward). I don't see him very often and I'm sure it's just as well!

That mirrors my experiences with ISTp's perfectly. Im going to circ du soleil with an ISTp guy tonight lol. At the moment i have two ISTp friends and they are both good guys. I agree with what gilligan says we dont do much interesting together though its more just relaxing. I think i provide them with emotional assistance which seems to make them happy though. They calm me down and they dont open their mouth if its pointless. Thats what i like about ISTps. They dont waste unnessary energy which i can do.

I would like to travel with my dual. There is no one i would rather travel with.

[BLauritson]

One of my best friends is ESFp; we both acknowledge we're more like brother and sister than anything else. There's not a great deal to comment on about it really.. we're coworkers basically and we get on really well both inside and outside of work. I quite often ask for her advice when it comes to relationships since she can usually give me good advice in that regard.

Interestingly enough, something I haven't noticed with any other types (or any other people for that matter), she's normally able to sense if there's some sort of strong emotion that I'm hiding. Say if someone's done something to make me angry for example, but I'm not showing it, she can usually sense it. Now that I think about it actually, I think ISFjs also notice this but tend to keep it to themselves. Maybe it's a Gamma SF thing? I dunno, there's lots of factors that could be involved. Just an observation of mine, although there's always the possibility that others notice but say nothing.