I've noticed several ISTPs work at grocery stores, usually nicer ones like Trader Joe's. I'm not sure why this is, but I thought I would share this bit of info, as us ENFPs are always on the lookout...(or, well, maybe just I am?)
My problem though, is that cute ISTPs make me go silent.
I've been going to the same Trader Joe's for 3 or 4 years, and the same cute ISTP and I always look over at eachother, and then never talk. Of course, I did have a couple of boyfriends that I would go to the store w/ for a couple of those years. But I've been single now for a long time (and he should be able to tell from the single-serving portions I buy). But for some reason I cannot make small talk with him. I almost purposefully ignore him. I don't know why.
Anyone else, I'm chatty. But I can't even say "hi" to him like a normal person would! The only things I've ever said to him in all these years are "hey, there is a really gross smashed egg in this carton" (as he was stocking the shelves by the eggs). And then he said something about not seeing me in the store for a while. And said something like I must have missed him, or he missed me, I forget. And then I hurried away while saying "yeah, well I come here whenever I need to buy food!" (such a witty reply, I know...)
And then he did notice when I dyed my hair one shade darker (it was subtle, so I was surprised he noticed). But usually he doesn't say anything.
I just can't bring myself to do the usual chit chat. I guess I've just run across player ISTPs lately (they do exist), so I'm probably just hesitant.
What should I say to the guy? Tonight I was in there and this other checkout guy commented on my green tea. I said I just picked it up randomly and didn't know if it was good. and the ISTP was like "aw shut up" or something. It didn't really make any sense. And then it was awkwardly silent once again.
There is also a hot guy at the safeway who stocks produce.
Needless to say, I buy way too many groceries...
I guess I just don't want to scare the ISTPs off by being too forward. Any tips?