
Originally Posted by
Expat

Originally Posted by
Jonathan
trying to put a little more Fi into how you say things;
What you see me as lacking is Fe, not Fi.
Okay, this wasn't what I wanted to discuss, but it is at least partly related, since it implies that I see Fe more than Fi (actually, an IEI should see both, right?).
(And by the say, I'm not arguing that you don't
value Fi.)
Anyhow, here's what I meant: Let's say someone says "That's a straw man argument!" or "That's irrelevant!" It seems an ISFj or INFj would be thinking of the other person's feelings and rather say "That doesn't seem to relate to what I was saying. Maybe one of us is misunderstanding?" Or instead of saying something like "That's a bad argument. You're obviously not..." (you didn't use these exact words; this is just an example), I picture a more Fi-inspired version as "I disagree with that, because..." Similarly (and again, I know you didn't say this exactly), instead of saying "That's wrong, and you're stupid," an Fi-inspired version would probably be to just mention why the statement is wrong and leave out the rest of it.
Rick, I think, is a good model of someone who shows respect for everyone in the way he says things, and who tends to keep things from getting too heated if he disagrees. In contrast, some Fe types actually turn up the heat, using ever more creative and expressive language to do it.
Now, you could argue that many Fe types will also tend to use the more diplomatic word choices than T types. Indeed. But if Fe is more related to expression, creating a mood, and relating to the group mood, and if Fi is more related to consideration for others, showing respect, creating bonds between people, and toning down excessive emotions (or things that stimulate them), then what I'm talking about here seems to be more Fi.
Quite apart from the fact that I'm the one who's mentioning it, why would it be Fe?