I was thinking... You know how the stereotypical INTjs and ISTjs are sad that people don't notice and that no one really knows them... non-Fe people who somewhat admire Fe think that everything would be easier if they just had Fe. I have one teacher (probably INTj) who is so monotonous that people stopped attending his lectures, and I'm sure he noticed. He seems like a nice guy, but he isn't doing anything to make an impression on the class. I wonder if he sometimes thinks that life would be better if only he knew how to influence the mood of the people in the class. Maybe he also thinks that Fe people have it easy.
I just want to set the record straight - it's not easier. It's somewhat more interesting, that's fur sure, but having that control over other people's mood can be quite difficult to have. And I have indeed noticed that I have enormous emotional influence. I can make people emotionally react, if only for a moment. I don't do it consciously, but it just happens. When I'm agitated, I notice people around me getting more serious and stiff. When I'm in a really happy mood, I usually start blabbing and goofing around and other people do react to it. People who know that it's the real me - the happy me - are more likely to react than those who barely know me.
To the point. The life of an Fe person who affects the moods of others takes responsibility for the moods that she creates. If I sense that a person doesn't like me, I'll probably be more sad, because the person saw the real me and didn't like it. For non-Fe people, there's always the option - "I never even opened up to them, they don't even know the real me.". But I do show myself to other people. They just might not like it and then I feel like I behaved the wrong way. ISFps tend to not like me... and ESTjs think I whine too much (negativism? not being able to appreciate what I already have?) and ESFjs like me just as long as I behave like an INTj, and ENTps only like me as long as I don't start planning anything...
No point in idealizing Fe. Just respond to it in a positive way, and the Fe people will appreciate you.