I had an ESTj male friend who, bless him, despite lots of effort he wouldnt get very far trying to get girlfriends. He had that air of 'Im above other people' that ESTj's often seem to have and worked very hard so had a lot going for him, but I think he struggled because he had a very clean view of the world, you know, thought eveything was morraly good, had a very politically correct view of everything etc and so was a bit nieve sometimes, I think this is where he kept tripping up.