It's not ignored. Jung's types assume you may use, study and develop in any of functions. Hence the possibility to adopt to the psyche of anyone in any IR. You may love, to have a compassion, to tune and introject anyone. With the understanding of other human, caring about him and following his wishes, when also the same is done with you - you establish good relations progressively. Good IR make this _easier_.
Duals need to adopt to each other too. To tune to other one to understand him, to do efforts, to follow wishes and interests of other one, to care about other one to make him happy. In conflictors IR people have a lot to give the other one what he wants, - but they do not want to give that as perceive that as alien to them, they have additional obstacle of other values to do what is needed, have to be more cautious with ego functions, with own valued ones to harm lesser. In IR like extinguishment people also need to use their weak functions (what is harder than with strong ones) to care about other one, to support him to live better.
The ideal situation would be without types, when all functions and values are accepted and used equally. Then there were no IR limitations - you'd could to love and to have good relations with anyone, making the same efforts like duals.
Just to "spent time" is not enough. This gives you the understanding only, though worse feelings reduce the understanding. For good relations besides the understanding you need to care about other one good and to get the similar care about yourself. Generally, with bad IR people even in long relations have significant stable problems of acceptance of each other, the lack of the support of their needs and the lack of satisfaction by such relations. They feel worse than in better IR. The deeper love there is - the more of the understanding, the more of the wish to care in a appropriate way - but you also understand the efforts and sacrifices it needs, so people may do lesser than needed due to higher efforts in bad IR.
Jung's types are important. Socionics points on obstacles and advantages people have in different IR and describes the common situation to where such IR lead. Info about IR and types also allows better understand the needs of people what may help to establish better relations with them.
To claim that Socionics "completely ignores" the influence of peoples' efforts or other factors on the quality of relations is baseless. Socionics is about types factor which influences on this.
Socionics does not claim that there are no other factors influencing on the satisfaction by relations so there was the sense to say that it ignores them. But Socionics points that it's doubtful to get good relations [of friendship, romance] with bad IR, that better IR incline to better relations and good IR generally lead to good ones. As it supposes types as very important for this. Nothing else.



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