I know the ESFj. SHe is an ESFj to a fault.
The guy is new (to me at least).
Demonstrates the Ij temperment pretty well.
Is not beta, is not ISTj.
I don't think he is Gamma ISFj, but I don't really know themtoo well.
Doesn't seem INFj
Seems a reasonable fit for INTj
Hmm..... ISFj seems possible now that I think of it.
Seems way to forward for an INTj... but then again, when I am comfortable I'm forward as well. But I don't sense from him. hmm... but then again, Fi via Se does somewhat make sense. I'll have to go over the profiles, etc. So advice or examples of ISFj in a relationship, especially with ESFjs, would be appreciated.
What I am concerned about is the ESFj trusting this person too much. She's shown remarkably bad judgment in the past, and alpha naivete about things. And now she seems to consult him for all heavy thinking. She's asking him how to write letters now..... it's justkind of distorbing.
The ESFj is happy very much in this relationship.... but she seems to be getting duller by the moment. Caring less and less about her shortcomings. This disturbs me greatly, as an INTj, an INTJ (especially), and someone who is concerned about the ESFj's being. It seems like she is interpreting the situation as duality or similar, but she is not beind dualized.... quite the opposite -- she is using this person as a cructh for her own development, and is purely focusing on regularing .
She seems to becoming more conceited in this way, which further disturbs me. Her relaitonships with other people are taking on a different tone, and to me it seems like what i mentioned above is influencing such. (Influencing things quite a bit). She is very very focused on her relationship, but I wonder if she is using it to 'not care' about other things as much.