So my husband and I have friends who are ESTj/INFj but much older than we are. Like 20 years older or something. So pretty old.
Anyway, a couple of weeks ago my husband was over at their house helping the ESTj with a project, and the INFj came out and started chatting with them. The ESTj made a comment about a celebrity and said he didn't think she was very pretty because her hair was too short and it made her look like a lesbian. My husband said as an attempted joke, "What, like your wife?" (The INFj has very short hair.) My husband said he thought it was funny but it didn't go over well.
The INFj got upset with my husband in her quiet INFj way, and is STILL pissed off about it. He called to talk to this guy this morning, and the wife answered and didn't say a word about that to him, but he said, "I can tell she's still mad at me."
So, INFjs, how does my husband make her feel better?