How does it make you feel?
I have been getting big doses of Fe from this guy (who could be enfj) and it feels kind of good and very flattering. But then I start to feel kind of anxious and almost self protective like I'm an open book and all you have to do is dose me and I'll do whatever you want. It seems kind of dangerous or something. Not that I'm doing whatever he wants, I just feel like unless I keep careful track then I could conceivably do whatever he wants if things keep up. And also I think that maybe I am self centered for liking so much flattery and I start to suspect I'm being manipulated, so I back off a little.
It's kind of scary, that dual seeking function.