What Enneagram type does this sound like?

[Averroes]

Someone whose sense of identity is derived from a perfect, idealized image in their head and not their actual interactions with people, and constantly feel disappointed/repulsed because they feel like who they are around other people doesn’t align with who they are or would like to be. They obsess over the minute “aesthetics” of each interactions and feel ashamed of how they sound, the things they end up talking about, etc. so they withdraw to preserve their self image and not have to confront the fact that they might actually be that lame, uninteresting, unexceptional and normal, and possibly even appreciated in spite of it.

They’d rather be alone in a stylish, sexy way than connected to others in a boring, grounded, “weak” way like some worker bee who self deprecates and only ever talks about the weather and what they want to eat for lunch for example.

Is any of those type relate, or does it have more to do with attachment theory and general insecurity?

[qaz00]

4w5>5w4

[Averroes]

I’m a lot more enneagram 3 coded than that

[Biscuit]

E4

[Ave]

Not sure. It doesn't sound fourish though tbh. It doesn't even sound especially type related.

[Metaphor]

Someone whose sense of identity is derived from a perfect, idealized image in their head and not their actual interactions with people, and constantly feel disappointed/repulsed because they feel like who they are around other people doesn’t align with who they are or would like to be. They obsess over the minute “aesthetics” of each interactions and feel ashamed of how they sound, the things they end up talking about, etc. so they withdraw to preserve their self image and not have to confront the fact that they might actually be that lame, uninteresting, unexceptional and normal, and possibly even appreciated in spite of it.

They’d rather be alone in a stylish, sexy way than connected to others in a boring, grounded, “weak” way like some worker bee who self deprecates and only ever talks about the weather and what they want to eat for lunch for example.

Is any of those type relate, or does it have more to do with attachment theory and general insecurity?

Clear frustration, ethical, and heart triad. Envy therefore E4, probably Social subtype.