cannot tolerate emotional uncertainty or melancholy. This demobilizes him, depresses him, makes him lethargic and passive. Being in a group, the ESI adjusts to those who are cheerful, joking, laughing.
If the other person is in a bad mood, the ESI tries to find out what happened, helps to get distracted from sad thoughts. He consoles the other person by saying that it can be worse for others, suggests them to go somewhere, to travel, to not think about what happened; in general, he tries to entertain them. Those who cannot be entertained, who “admire” their grief, the ESI does not tolerate in his circle.
compassionate and how to get immersed in the grief of others, yet they cannot help empathizing. That is why it seems to ESIs that the person who “demonstrates” their personal grief and pain to others is selfish, ruining others’ life with clear conscience. A moody person is almost an enemy, who consciously or unconsciously spoils the mood of others and knocks them out of active life
The ESI tells his loved ones: tell me what happened and I will try to help, but just don’t demonstrate your grief.