Originally Posted by
Lord Pixel
Bro I gotta disagree, this is too "love is dead" for me. And love has never just come to me. I've placed myself in situations where it could happen and I always had to take action.
That's what happens when your intake of content is solely online and not in the real world. While people are certainly not bound to each other anymore since the modern world makes survival so easy, and women don't have to put up with abusive husbands, or men with ugly or naggy wives. No one is bounded by needs anymore, people now have the choice to be with almost anyone, and no restraint or legal obligation of monogamy, marriage's meaning and purpose has been washed out. Some people don't choose monogamy in this world, just like not many kids pick veggies or fruits with junk food shoved in their face all the time.
But certainly whenever someone tries to replace real human connection, it doesn't work.
You aren't truly accepting life for what it is, blaming the outside world than looking inside yourself.
If you focus so much on what you are missing,
you will be bound to miss out on the wonders and knowledge this world offers.
This maybe too harsh. The world doesn't care about you want, life partners focus on how you can make their lives better, not if you are a hard worker or a nice guy, and especially not your personal selfish needs and wants since they care about their selfish needs and desires. The moment you are the person that gives them access to this, you become valuable, thus become something worth keeping around. Then you will consistently attract the right opportunities in your life. For this you need to be less selfish, but not self sacrificial, be valuable and perceived as valuable. This applies to all things, even business, college, etc.
You sound helpless, like you tried hard for love. The Harder You Try, The Worse It Gets. I recommend you try to look into any possible mental conditions if it's this extreme.
What we think becomes our actions, becomes our sub conscious, etc, but it's not impossible to break away from that chain because of something called free will. Mindsets don't come out of nowhere, they stem from issues that force or convince people to think of another lens to approach this world.
Bad habits die hard, including dogma of the mind.
But damn well not impossible, you know I'm right.
Even still, your mindset doesn't matter, not until you put in actual effort or take action. No insult, but you need to have more nuance as to why something happened.
Who you are today isn't who you were yesterday, or who you will be tomorrow.