Being fat looks a lot better on women than men.
Being fat looks a lot better on women than men.
Imagine her 22 year young She's pretty, has a sexy voice, bubbly personality and she fucks good - what not to like?
She's 35 here. She doesn't look bad for a 35 year old even as non-BBW. Yeah, she's got round cheeks, but her boobs are round too
Surely it depends on the person…I don’t look good fat. I think it’s to do with how naturally toned your body is
My best friends of 35-45 years are all fat and so is hubby
I never cared to mention it. Two of them are battling perimenopause. My ESe sister is fat too
I love them for who they are. They are the light to me
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
So much compassion on the Christian forum
Not on my Christian Minecraft server
Lol funny how you mentioned that. Yeah, you'll realize that with some cultures. They really are just beauty standards at it's core. Things change with time. I remember the slim thick body type being super in, the curvy body type, now it seems like skinny is coming back as the new standard from what I heard about Kim K removing her BBL. Damn I'm cringing from just talking about this but yeah, another man's "trash" is another's treasure is the saying that comes to mind. Not shitting on plastic surgery or anything I actually don't care about it, you do you I'm still going to look at you as a person at the end of the day. You treat me right I treat you right.
I think the main thing is having decency to treat others with respect as they treat you. The bare minimum is minding your business in public and that goes without saying. If I see a crazy bitch out in public am I going to say anything? Hell no I'm looking the other way and dipping out. Not only that but people literally don't owe you anything. NOTHING LOL. Why are we so entitled as humans to criticize someone's appearance and social standing? Their entire life doesn't revolve around our happiness, if we don't like someone because of their face... Simply don't look lol. It's entitlement and thinking you have anything vital to say to someone regarding their health and physique. You don't. Those people know they're obesed so just mind your business
The world would be a lot more peaceful place if we actually focused on ourselves instead directing all our anger, shame, hurt and pain onto others.
The world would be more pleasant place in case there was more of pleasant, including to see. And to deal with, as beauty relates to health and to abbility to be alive, to make children.
To improve something you may follow to love and/or to hate for the same result. As what motivates you to move is a pleasure or a suffering. Where it's secondary what as you'll come to same point.
Focusing just on yourself will not help to make your and other peoples life better or good, as people depend from conditions of where they live.
Focusing on yourself is useful only from the point of balance for E/I. For example, to think better about what you know (Ti) or about own wishes/sympathies (Fi).
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"focusing of anger, shame, hurt and pain" onto youself would be not so better than on external I suppose the more appropriate for your idea would be to avoid making negative emotions for you and others. It's the way of light, of love. People never live only by making and demanding of pleasant to others. No one. People live by two approaches - by love and hate. They can be equal by final result, being just +/- in life motivations.
For example, when you teach someone - you predispose him to unpleasant training. But also you improve his possible state in the future as make him stronger to live and mb to get more pleasure. What you do is light or darkness? You do both as the sum of process and result. Mb any what we do is so, and just limited mind perceives parts of whole situation, gets the illusions of good and evil.
I would prefer the tough love and honesty over fake positivity personally when it comes to flaws and bad habits that I have control over if it comes from a good place and it's something I want to change
Last edited by Averroes; 02-17-2023 at 09:53 PM.
So you are also shaming people who smoke, drink, do drugs, and cause others' physical and emotional pain?
It's funny how people hide behind the "burden to society" bullshit. At least be honest about your enjoyment of shaming people and having found an easy target.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Don't gloat about bullying people. It's against the rules. Don't make me have to use my Umbridge authority and punish people or shut the thread down.
I highly doubt this is about being mean to fat people 'for their own good', because you've also been an asshole to people before for no good reason.
When I was still a smoker, nobody shamed me for it because it's not actually about "toxic lifestyles. When I was still morbidly obese, random strangers shaming me only made me want to die.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Actually …
Is Smoking Worse Than Being Obese?
”Obesity has a similar impact on life expectancy. But while smoking certainly carries numerous and substantial health risks, obesity poses even more.”
The Health Risks of Obesity Worse Than Smoking, Drinking or Poverty
I’m sorry but the non-pc, non-feel-good reality is actually the correct one.
Notably, you will find centenarians who smoke like chimneys but you will not find any obese ones.
Also if you let your pets get fat it’s considered animal abuse and wrong.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
The double standard on talking about weight bothers me. I'm 5'3" 112 lbs & people have straight up asked me if I have an eating disorder (I do not) but I'd be wrong if I came back with a comment about them being fat. Seriously I once went to a counselor who had to weigh 300 lbs & all she did all session was ask me about my weight. & Then was confused why I was there. I never went back to her. My issues were I was stressed with college because I couldn't focus & keep up with school work & it was causing me stress.
You're either a gym bro who can benchpress 300 lbs (and vote for Trump), or you're a fat, mixed-race intersectional feminist who believes in 'health at any size' (and vote for Hillary Clinton). There is no in-between. Take that! Mr. Thomas Jefferson and the framers of American democracy.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
There is health limit and optimum. The more goes beyond - the lesser attractive you'll be perceived, as would had lesser possibility to born and upbring children.
> I still haven't figured out my husband's type.
A video and you'll get opinions.
Tests also may help you. Gulenko's dichotomy test with 72 pairs of questions is not bad and not long, seems alike such was translated to English.
I find comments about "there is a limit" and general assumptions about the effects of weight tedious and boring. Why do you think people need to be lectured about this? Don't you think people who battle weight issues haven't heard it all before? I have gone to doctor's appointments for ear aches and was lectured about my weight. Like I haven't counted every single calorie I eat for the past thirty years and spent countless hours at the gym just to maintain my weight
People who have not experienced serious struggles with their weight need to STOP commenting. You think you are thin because you are aware that being overweight is "bad" and the reason people are overweight is because they don't know it's "bad"? Come on.
Also, my goals in life are neither to be attractive not to bear children. I would rather be a disheveled dog lady who allows herself to eat chocolate every once in a while, thank you very much.
As for a video, I don't think it will do much, but I can ask him.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I love skinny girls. Ppl shame me for liking anorexic chicks, but what can I do.
I follow an anorexic subreddit to inspire myself not to be a fatass and for their tips and tricks. I’m awful
I’ve never been anorexic as in wanting to keep losing and losing. I got down to 98lbs once at 5’3” and I starting looking gross, so I willingly gained a few. I weigh like 135lbs now and I basically hate myself and my weight is on my mind 24/7. It really sucks, whatever this is. But it seems I’m never happy with my weight no matter what. 108lbs ish is where I feel most comfortable with I guess. It’s what I usually weigh before I became a fattass. I body shame myself no matter, so there it is.
Aww that's so adorable, I'm melting <3 Yeah, I was 125 lbs a few times at 6'1 hehe I was a skinny bitch pretty much but I was super unhealthy, I was in hospital after that. But I wasn't losing weight on purpose, I just didn't want to eat at all after quitting my meds. I was out in the city every night, just walking in the dark alone, dreaming, singing
I actually stopped eating again, because I quit my meds
Man you act like you was shit, but I would knock you out with my left arm, I grew up among thugs, I've been in jail, I've been in the news because of money fraud. I don't know what 'dreaming' means for you. Basically what I mean is, I was walking out in the city, looking for cool architecture (oh such uwu homo IEI vibes, yay, I know), talking with people in my head, constructing things in my head, future plans. If you want to call me a IEI that's fine. I probably larp IEI cause I'm a homo uwu INFP ******, who's really tired of people's shit and their hate and distrust, and as one ILI stated, I'm desperate for Ni, it's just that no amount of Ni is actually enough for me, the minute it stops, I get fucking depressed. Of course, it's been like that only for the last 5 or 6 days since my vacay in Spain. I just sleep too little, don't get enough rest and that's where it gets me. At least, you typed me as a D and not a fucking Normie like everyone else. I can feel it, I feel the love baby <3