Originally Posted by fjoerd
> How do you use Fi?
...to figure out my relationship with other people and things in general. I think I'm fairly good at telling apart what is said out loud, what is being held back, and fairly sensitive/attentive to the various meanings behind different looks, facial expressions, peculiarities in speech, intonation, and metacommunication in general; to the motivating feelings behind people's actions (I often find myself calming and helping them to see other perspectives and priorities when they complain to me about each other), or even to the possible motivating feelings behind the tone of someone's written text. But I don't really observe specifics one by one to construct an easily explainable opinion, I'm talking about a prompt overall impression I usually stick to as long as I'm not obviously proven wrong, and I think I rarely am. I am not measuring people against norms or standards (like I'd assume someone with Te or Fe in their ego block would), I measure others' emotional reacions to me in tandem with my own emotional reactions to determinte where I stand with other people. This stance, although strong from the beginning and rarely if ever changes fundamentally, it is not static, it becomes more and more nuanced as time passes.
I'm unsure how common is this among feeler types, but I find myself antropomorphizing animals, plants and even inanimate objects in my mind to determine whether I like them or not, and especially, whether I want them in my life or not. For eg. I can be friends with a particular dog or a cat but I cannot say I like dogs and cats in general. When antropomorphizing is not possible or just inadequate, like in a matter of deciding whether I agree or disagree with the guiding principles of different political ideologies, I can become quickly frustrated, and annoyingly, highly impressionable if I don't see obvious logical flaws standing out in the arguments advocating for them. Luckily, I'm not completely helpless, it all becomes clear once I have a chance to see who are actually claiming to represent a political cause. When I sense passive-aggressive or manipulative tendencies, gaslighting, dishonesty, machinations being rampant, I am triggered to walk away and reevaluate my views since I'm always struck by the the impression that I cannot share the same beliefs as people who I find immoral without becoming one of them. But I'm mainly moralizing internally, and I'm not preoccupied with sewing a web of moral values, or filtering moral principles inherited from my parents, the current political system or society I'm living in at large. My view on morals can be traced back to only a handful of core beliefs. Generally, if I find that someone is open to see their own shortcomings and also open to see different people are, well, different, and honor their need to be honest and understanding about these matters, there's always human potential. Everything else grows out of this and is of secondary importance.