Hi I’m back and can’t decide which Quadra I’m in. Any help?
Socionics Fe/Fi is difficult to grasp for me. First because im young, secondly because I’m not mentally healthy. So even though most evidence points to Fe, I don’t know if my Fe tendencies come from general insecurity or actual Fe. This I can’t decide my quadra either.
Alpha or Beta SF/NF points:
I definitely give off a Fe vibe, I’ve been called sweet, charming, kind et cetera by people who haven’t known me for super long. Someone even called me charismatic. It takes a lot out of me to stand up for myself with “outside” people. or say my true opinion. i kind of need everyone to like me.
I’ve also been told I laugh or smile too much, it’s true I love laughing. I can’t keep a serious face for long.
I don’t tend to bottle up my emotions, i cry outwardly. my ESI mom often tells me I’m very sensitive. It’s true that i cry easily and my emotions show in my face…
Whenever I socialise I feel responsible for everyone having fun, I monitor how everyone’s feeling so I can keep adding onto the atmosphere, I like to sway the atmosphere myself if that makes sense.
I love guiding others and giving them advice, my advice isn’t really empathetic though I just love brainstorming ways to solve their problems and improve their lives.
I love Se but I struggle with it, I want to assert myself and be fearless but always end up backing out.
i’m indecisive and make a lot of impulsive purchases. i generally avoid risk.
Delta or Gamma SF/NF points:
Honestly I struggle to empathise, I have a lot of cognitive empathy but not a ton of affective empathy. I go through life mostly worried about my own problems.
I can be blunt or aggressive to those close to me, like a parent or a sibling. Basically when I trust that person, and don’t feel at risk of them removing their love from me, I can be myself and say what I think.
I have big dreams and a competitive side - Im generally too lazy to act on this but this may me more related to my depression symptoms than socionics. In general I do see working too hard as a waste of time though, we’re here to enjoy life not be a cog in the wheel.
Whilst I appear lighthearted, the people closest to me know I can take myself too seriously. I feel serious and heavy most of the time in fact. ILE dad describes me as too serious.
My sense of humour has been called hard hitting - mostly it’s making fun of things and people.
I can’t really live in the moment.
I fantasise about rebellion and stuff but way too scared to act on it in real life.
I’m pretty bossy & inexpressive with those close to me. can sound monotone. with outside people i’m almost excessively expressive, so it’s confusing for me.
People who known me for a shorter time of maybe a year or two insist im too disorganised, scatterbrained and messy, people who’ve known me a little longer also know i’m too disorganised but seem to think I have a vibe of organisation? except for my mom who insists i’m way too chilled out and lazy
Theres more that doesn’t come to mind right now, so I can elaborate if needed but basically my family members and very close friends have a very different opinion of me than what i’ve been told by others.
Everything I write is also mostly things that others have told me, so my description is only slightly skewed by self image.
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Originally Posted by Coeruleum Blue
