That was an interesting desc. Also lol but would you call any of your games cruel or bitchy? If so, can you give me an example.
Weirdly enough, I'm 100% sure I had an IEI bf, Fe subtype. And he never tried to do any of this to me like you describe it, and he never said he'd do it to any friends either. Maybe he did, I didn't get a chance to see him much with his friends (1-month relationship). And I didn't need it because like you say this stuff is inconsequential & I don't have time for inconsequential stuff
It would've been rather annoying, if I regularly had had to deal with things like my coat pocket. He did do stuff like starting to randomly sprint and I always got him and stopped him because idk (several reasons, sometimes it annoyed me & would tell him off, sometimes I was protective etc). Anyways, the IEI had zero resistance to whatever I was doing, or 0.001% resistance at best, I think he was just "too nice" and I found myself getting bored. I kinda lost a lot of interest in him after the first day tbh, not entirely his fault.
Then I ended it with him a month later when he changed some behaviour making him seem less attentive, and I decided that meant he no longer "loved" me and that it was all going downhill in the relationship.
In retrospect, maybe it was a temporary "change" and it wasn't all going "downhill", but I just had this gut feeling and he was not exciting enough anyway
He was all sad all over the place when I ended it with him, weirdly enough
but yeah I believed my gut feeling anyways.
-I do have to add I was reallllly emotionally UNavailable at the time so that's part of why it all wasn't entirely his fault, among other reasons-
Oh and I knew this other guy who'd try to always take the cap off my head and run away with it in public, then I'd have to run after him to get it back, and it was ALWAYS really pissing me off. Again, I didn't want to deal with that kind of thing on a daily basis, because it was my fav hat, and I didn't want it damaged or anything like that. But he wasn't IEI for sure, was some extravert. This guy was also overall very very into testing boundaries, all the fucking time, no exaggeration. He was fucking all over the place with everything. And I was like, I didn't want to get involved in that (because I wasn't attracted to him physically and I disliked his lifestyle as well, very messy), so I was like trying to remain 100% polite & pretend I didn't notice the boundary testing even if it got uncomfortable, I'd just stay polite....unless it was really getting outrageous, then I'd always shut him down. It's hard to explain what I mean by not wanting to get involved, but like, I wanted to just remain detached and at a distance from it all & from him and this was the way for me to ensure that. Except I did have to always run after the goddamn hat he was constantly stealing.
He eventually had a big problem with everyone else in the group we'd hang out with, I think I was the last person he was still kinda getting along with but I was glad to just not have to be in contact with him anymore when the group fell apart.
I haven't decided if he was IEE or EIE but those are the only two options that can work for him. Does it sound more Victim or more Infantile in your opinion?
(Whatever he was I swear I'll type as his Conflictor or Superego at least)