Hi!
I'm wondering what you think the best types are for IEI's (specifically male IEI's) to get into a long-term relationship with. To summarize my own takes and what I've read here on this topic:
IEI & EII:Pros:
* Big 5: this is seemingly one of the few relations wherein it's possible to match big 5 traits, which, according to Jordan Peterson (who references contemporary science), is one of the top factors in predicting long-term relationship success. (EII's are usually high in openness; conscientiousness seems to vary; extraversion varies--but EII's are usually homebodies (ime), as are many IEI's; EII's are seemingly often highly agreeable, but IEI's may vary (I'm not that agreeable); neuroticism varies, I guess. (I'm low) (If both have high => relationship bad). If one has low, they help the one with high to chill...) So it is possible to match them all, which I'd currently deem is about as important to a relationship as the whole of Socionics. (Perhaps compatability comes from roughly, and ofc varyingly, 30% socionics, 30% big 5, 10% "pure biology" and 30% nurture and interests. I don't know, what do you think?)
* Mutual respect, they admire my Ni, I admire their Fi. Sort of. I don't prioritise Fi over Fe in interactions, but I nonetheless like Fi and respect moral steadfastness and integrity.
* Very rarely any "real" fights.
Cons:
* Different perception =>
* Misunderstandings in communication, not as smooth as intra-quadra. Ime, we often intend different meanings in our wordings.
* Fighting over nothing
* Perhaps not the same sense of humor (??? I don't know how true this is. I find EII's laugh at Te stuff, which I don't find funny at all; and ofc vice versa with my Se. Also: EII's Fe-humor'n't... But, it's not like I never laugh with EII's. It's just... different. More serious? Forced? I don't know. I, for sure, laugh at different things for different reasons, as compared to when with, e.g., an SLE).
* Get along with their friends & family???
* LSE conflictors likely
* IEI supervisee ESE is their mirage, so likely friend
* and of course vice versa with my friends & family
Ah fuck it's getting late... It's been a blast to write, I'll finish this up quickly:
IEI & IEE:Pros:
* ??? I'm stunned at the fact that I can't seem to come up with any pros off the top of my head. I guess and hope it's due to the fact that I'm tired...
* EDIT 221014 01:18: I have two IEE friends and they've shaped me into a better person, for sure. They can actually be very funny. Kind of the same sense of humor? But still not quite dual-like, nonetheless particularly good.
Cons:
* Muh extinguishment... The people on here seem vehemently opposed to this relationship... Which is in line with my experience. The two I've experienced went pretty much along the lines of extinguishment. Can it work though? I mean WORK-work. Without unnecessary suffering.
IEI & SLE:Pros:
* Duality. Doesn't get better than this, in theory.
Cons:
* Low openness? But not really, now that I come to think of it. I have a friend who's SLE but has like 90 openness. However, he doesn't seem too interested in ideation, which I am not really, either, now that I come to think of it. Purposeful ideation I love, I mean look at what I'm writing! But, ideation for the sake of... ideation? I find that shit fucking dull and pointless. I guess it's my nonvalued Ne. Tangents... (double entendre, now that I regrettably, with regard to time, re-read) OK max 5 minutes:
* For IEI men and SLE women, gender stereotypes fuck shit up. Sort of. SLE women are "manly", IEI men are "nerds". Stereotypically. Now, I'd say I'm atypically chad for an IEI (rock hard surface, but pretty damn prideful (working on it) and sensitive. But nobody fucks with me. Pretty much ever. So I get very sensitive to the littlest of "slights". Tangents...) Nonetheless, I feel sort of emasculated by SLE's. Maybe it's just some fucked up thing in my head. To an onlooker, I'm "chad", but psychologically, they often really want to have the upper hand. Which is opposed to gender stereotypes, and a dynamic which feels strange. Not used to it, but one might grow into it?
Ok. I definitely could go on and on... I hope I'll soon find time and motivation to add to this. Excues any misspellings. Any kind of input would be highly appreciated!
Good night ^^