| the psychopathic character
In our culture, it is typically the mother who narcissistically establishes and knowingly what kind of care of her is most suitable for his baby; in this way they are ignored, disregarded and manipulated i true, natural bioenergetic needs of that child. They they are in fact sacrificed on the altar of the freedom of the gods parents to pass on to their children the values of that family it is custodian, trampling on the child's right to develop e to express different values, those of his innate potential, of his Emerging Self (intentionality aimed at experience and knowledge). If this conflict over the right of expression is exacerbated, one mother may neurotically react to her child's requests for her, and she may become anxious about who she is i developmental needs and psychomotor skills; then the baby develops the feeling of hostility and maternal aggression, and at the same time the anxiety to please is determined in him the mother, so caring and anxious for certain functions, and so indifferent and negative for all other relational channels. Then the child begins to have doubts about his own functions natural things that worry the mother so much, she begins to lose confidence in one's bodily sensations, in oneself, begins to structure the chronic muscular tensions and to exchange the bodily sensations as a function of maternal wishes. Just so he manages to sleep the conflict with his mother and to delude himself that mom accept it and love it beyond just maternal care.
( Ezio Zucconi Mazzini, The disease of power, Alpes Italia, Rome, 2010, cap. VIII ° - p. 70 ).
The psychopath's experience in his childhood life is full of manipulations carried out by the mother towards him. It is not uncommon to observe a child who, attracted to objects, new colors and motor activities for him, he comes promptly blocked and addressed differently by a mom he observes the inescapable imperative: "it's for your own good". To concretely understand what the experiences lived by the child in that specific situation, we imagine a child in the object phase of differentiation ( from one to about two years ) who, attracted by the carpet at home, begins to play pulling him and laughing with glee at his new discovery. He immediately arrives the mother who distracts him from that she was doing: "No! No, You know a good kid doesn't these dangerous games, he does not get his hands dirty by touching the floor and carpet, no no. "She Then she takes him by the hand, accompanies him in another room, she makes him sit on the chair of her small desk, she hands him a children's picture book and tries to persuade him that reading is the activity that is good and good for him: "you see how nice the bunny on this page, indicating it with the finger, at the top there is a letter, the letter C, Bunny! You see how do you have fun, that's what makes you happy and what makes you have fun and mom is happy that she learns something useful. You are unique, you are the smartest, you are the best of all children, that's why I love you so much " child begins to doubt his bodily sensations, especially because the mother, in her relationship mode (fondling and manipulating it), convinces him to hear that that she herself wants him to hear.
There psychopathic child's mother is very seductive and at the same time, manipulative. The child did not lack treatment maternal, however, the feeling he experienced is that not were really aimed at him, his sensory perception tends to get confused. It should be remembered that at birth, the child lives the relationship with the mother exclusively through the sensory apparatus, not being the motor one, of the language and intellect, still formed. For this reason the sensory is critical in its functionality or dysfunctionality. The calm, serene relationship, sure that it is he accompanies in his experiences, even of contact, he alternates in an unpredictable swing, in relation to moods and changing emotional feelings of the mother.
The reactions that you do develop in the child can proceed in two ways:
- With the tendency to passivity, waiting for the situation change and that the promises, the flattery, are kept; or, in reverse,
- With narcissistic independence that rejects the idea of waiting, as the emphasis of the seductive parent who does it feeling the best, the only one, makes the child demand that i his needs are met immediately, because everything is his due.
Alexander Lowen in his precious volume: "The language of body, Feltrinelli Editore, Milan 1978 ", writes that chaos that can be determined in a child's life is due to forces external that have disturbed the natural, harmonious self-regulation.
The effort to be good, by limiting emotional expression induces rebellion in the child who, however, fearing that he will lose love, he will end up using them same weapons as the mother: in the situation described, seduction and manipulation. Like this the pleasure of "feeling what he feels" is replaced by that of "having to hear what others like to hear". What is the result? He denies what he feels.
Identifying with the parent who with his seduction, di the fact uses violence, the child denies the violence suffered and, blocking the feelings of hostility and the intentions of rebellion, becomes a psychopath, learning to seduce in turn. In its absolute dependence on the mother, in her need to be however loved by her, the child will be convinced that "it is not true what he hears ", but what mum says is true, so, to quell the chaos that can be created between impulse and repression of the impulse, he will learn to remove the sensations, denying the falsity of maternal promises. Promises are the only thing who truly has, for him the equivalent of motherly love, of the attention he can get. Denying the veracity of promises made by the mother, it would be how to feel the bitterness and despair of confronting one false mother, the child thus enters the fear of terror of what is not there.
If this represents for the child the only survival mechanism a disposition of him, to this he will adapt. By doing so it will become submissive, but without feeling, a naive psychopath, easily parasitic, gregarious, in need of flattery, of alliances, chameleonic in behavior, as, a unlike the narcissist who feels omnipotent, has no goals precise. The manipulative aspect will lead him to exploit the people stronger than him, living in their shadow, evident inauthentic behavior because his inner chaos does not lets you understand what he really wants. In the psychopath with masochistic aspects submission is more evident. To the on the contrary, the psychopath with markedly narcissistic aspects, feels that for him it is essential not to be gregarious of anyone, but to have wingmen to use, always available for him. Its absolute imperative is: to become a leader, the number one, the best, unfortunately a any cost.
For Alexander Lowen " Bioenergetics, Feltrinelli Publisher, Milan 1983 ", in the psychopath the ego becomes hostile to body and its sensations, especially sexual ones. The need for power, domination, control, both through oppression, which instead with seduction (always winning with the naive), remains the basic feature. The need to controlling is always related to the fear of being controlled and therefore used; whereby the struggle that is established for the dominance excludes the possibility of defeat. Present is always the sexual aspect, even if in the relationship the pleasure is not it derives as much from sex as from the performance in which the seductive, soft, captivating aspect is part of the maneuver manipulative of which, as a child, he was the object of his mother she that she wanted to tie him to her. The fixed idea of being special (mythomania, megalomania), makes him reject whatever you oppose it, denying any responsibility that can put it in discussion. The inability to accept criticism triggers the defended him using the lie as if it were a reality, acting and appearing "as if he is genuinely sorry" or "as if he was excited". Alexander Lowen talks about dryness emotional, emotional desert, lack of sense of humanity, in the sense that the needs of others do not exist for him, like this how he feels indifferent to the feelings of others. The psychopath was forced to learn too early "le rules of the game "pretending. Manipulative seduction a time of him from the parent of the opposite sex does not allow identification with the parent of the same sex, psychopath feels superior to him ( males feel superior to the father and females superior to the mother ). For this reason he will not be able to develop the superego and for this reason reason is free from any moral norm. He doesn't want support and no one's help because he fears he can become one instrument of the other, as his childhood experience has in him taught. He is always wary and cautious, he does not believe in good faith of others and not even that the other can be animated by sincere intentions, that he may be disinterested; his dramatic childhood life experience has him proved otherwise. Precisely because he was manipulated, he is psychopath has developed the ability to know how to grasp the need of the other and he uses it for himself, pretending to be animated by profound altruism. He often presents himself as a person nice, smiling, positive and very sensitive, to the point of intuit the true needs of others, present solutions bright as possible and appear unselfish and disinterested.
There his typical phrase, pronounced in a seductive and mellifluous way, with a three-quarter posture, significantly lowering his head but not his gaze, it is: "but it is I do for you! ” However, as soon as he manages to conquer the trust and to overcome any wall of defense or wise perplexity of others, he seduces and manipulates people for turn the situation to his exclusive advantage. When he does others, whom he frequently perceives as prey, do realize the trap is too late, because the psychopath is managed to carry out his purposes at his own exclusive benefit. His self-interest is sovereign for him and it proves itself indifferent to the damage caused to others, even if considerable, even if ruinous. The dangerousness of the psychopath in the relationships of all kinds and kinds is amplified by his own excellent intelligence of him, such as to make him often unsurpassable; he checks every variant and anticipates every possible defense of the other. As for a fly in front of a spider's web, the only possibility of salvation is to realize in advance of the trap, woven to appear invisible. It is not accidental that so many people deceived and skillfully damaged by someone, in retrospect they say: " who would have expected it, not I would have never imagined ".
THE BODY AND THE SITUATION OF THE PSYCHOPATH
The psychopath was a child who did not receive the support and does not possess the ability to be grounded . In such a situation the body has to for adaptation "uprooting", "pulling up", the energy is concentrated in the part upper body. This upward push, this escape from reality ( upsetting for the child at an important stage development ) also moves the body's center of gravity upwards, which is clearly visible in the disproportion between the development of the upper part (overdeveloped), compared to the lower part of the body, (underdeveloped).
The lower limbs are slender, there is no secure base; there top is hyper-expanded, held up, as if to inflate the image of him as much as possible. The lack of perceptual integration is expressed somatically through the typical character structure of the psychopath (holding up) . The head it is not energetically connected with the rest of the body; sometimes the head turns out to be unsuitable and inadequate to the rest of the body, being an infant head on an adult body, or, al conversely, a mature head on an infant body. Other times the head is small compared to a body which is big and strong. These disharmonies and disproportions between head and body would be induced by the ring of tension that the psychopath develops at base of the skull, quite early in its development psychophysical.
His gaze is very controlled and controlling, often stares to impose her will. Her eyes have one dual function: they are an organ of vision (to look), but also a organ of contact with others (see in depth). The psychopath possesses bright eyes that look at everything but that don't they "see" their interlocutors. The eye block prevents or distorts emotional contact with the eyes. The eyes are mirror of the soul and express feelings and emotions. The psychopath expresses with shoulder girdle elevation and expansion of the rib cage: "I, I, you don't know who I am!". Deny i feelings, turns away from his true self and invests his own energy resources in the image of him. The psychopath does not go never in therapy except out of necessity. In life he manages the power, he must feel powerful through money, success, prestige, etc. With the economic crisis the psychopath does not holds up because he can no longer maintain his image inflated. He is unable to stay in a situation that "reduces" him and by reaction he runs away from intolerability, often making use of alcohol, drugs, etc. He can't take the frustration and if not he manages to escape from you yes "crumbles"; only in this bankruptcy situation does he consider the possibility of psychotherapy.
In the reading of the body one observes in the psychopath a inverted energy flow, that is, from the head to the limbs lower, through the defensive recruitment of energy from the upper body (head, chest, neck), hyper-energized, to compensate and hide weakness e instability of the legs. In fact, his knees don't flex and lower limbs, during exercises bioenergetic, they do not vibrate. These strong muscular tensions they dissociate the consciousness from the sensations, while the tension diaphragmatic and pelvic dissociates sexuality from emotions of love, in other words the psychopath is controlled by the power of the head. Energy cannot go down to the heart, ai genitals and legs because grounding it would make him easy prey to intimacy, than the psychopath he lives as: " being at the mercy of the mother's seduction ". Own for fear of being seduced he becomes very seductive, but without ever putting the heart and intimacy at risk, by controlling emotions and affections. Unfortunately for him, just that defensive behavior really puts the health of the his heart, to the benefit of cardiologists ( Ezio Zucconi Mazzini, The disease of power, Alpes Italia, Rome, 2010, chap. XXV ° - p. 214 ). The breathing of the psychopath is predominantly thoracic. The chest will turn out for this reason swollen and expanded, in a psychological attempt to hypertrophy the I of him. It is not uncommon to observe in evolutionary history of the psychopath a correlated affective disorder, generated by the desire of his parents to have a special , successful which received toys and material goods in place of authentic affective closeness, underlined by a true loving contact with the parents.
Dr. Cosimo Aruta