ILI Ni - EII Ne relationships

[InkBlue]

Note: This thread is specifically about relationships between ILI Ni and EII Ne people with a clearly defined subtype, not ILI - EII in general


What are friendships between those types like? How about romantic relationships?
Can such relationships last?
What is the dynamic like?
Are they sufficiently stimulating for both parties?
Do people of these types get along well with each other? Is communication easy?
Would such a relationship pose any risks to the safety of those involved?
Where does this kind of relationship rank?


If anyone here knows of an example of such a relationship (or has been in one themselves) , how did it go?
Alternatively, any example of a relationship between a benefactor of Inert subtype and a beneficiary of Contact subtype would be helpful

[adage]

That's a lot of intuition.
Idk the specifics but what stands out to me is that it would be rather abstract, out of touch with reality.
Both types need to get in touch with the S domain and neither can offer much there.
Worse, one can offer more than the other and that may bring animosity.

I'd say friends could happen for occasional chats but more would be strenuous.

[Lord Pixel]

I'm EII Ne and I was with an ILI girl that did not seem ILI-Te, (I didn't see her Te that often) so if I had to guess she was probably the other subtype.

What are friendships between those types like? How about romantic relationships?

We went from friends to dating very fast. Most of the relationship revolved around her feeling very comfortable around me because of Fi. She had a crave of Fi it seemed and appreciated that the most about me. She felt like she could open up to me easily and she thought that made things between us stand out from other romantic relationships she had. We were very very close and she opened up to me alot. Romantically there was a ton of closeness and told me she felt very understood by me.

On my end the number one thing I noticed that stood out to me when I was with her, was that when I spoke to her it felt like my thoughts were forming and becoming clear as I spoke. Like my mind was opening up or something. Just talking to her I got clarity with my own thoughts. It was weird and not something I experienced with other people that much.

Can such relationships last?

I definitely think so. I'm not in a relationship with the ILI anymore, and it wasn't exactly typed related, though I could the role typed played in it. But if we didn't have different future goals I think I would have married her actually. So ime I could see it lasting for sure.

What is the dynamic like?

The dynamic was interesting because it seemed like we both subconsciously tried to become what the other person wanted/needed. Not in a bad I-can't-be-myself kind of way, it was subconscious it seemed.

Naturally I was like an emotional soundboard for her. Where I tried to compensate was, I took on a little bit of an aggressor role, I initiated things physically, I was the one that broke the touch barrier and showed I was physically attracted to her. I probably tried to subconsciously fill a gap.

She subconsciously took on a caregiver role. I mean she was incredible honestly. She offered to pay for everything whenever we went out, there were times where I had to stop her and pay for stuff just to even the score. When she'd invite me over she learned my grandma's recipe of my favorite dish, (which is from a foreign country), just to feed me and keep my satisfied. She had my favorite drinks, my favorite tv show on, just to keep me around. She was the perfect girlfriend on paper honestly. She even tried to take my shoes off for me, I had to stop that because it made me feel like too much of a child lol, it was flattering though. She asked me for nothing except company. I don't think she realized she was taking on this role, it was just how she responded to me.

So, overall I was the one who initiated things physically and gave her a shoulder to vent and cry on, and she provided tons of accommodations, room, board, food, and your favorite tv show lol.

Are they sufficiently stimulating for both parties?

There was definite stimulation, emotional stimulation for her, she loved being able to be vulnerable and open up to someone. The funny thing was I rarely did that with her, but I also never felt the need. I didn't feel like she had to be a shoulder for me to lean on, I kinda liked it the way it was. And my mind was very stimulated from talking to her, she was like a mental soundboard for me, like I said just sharing my thoughts out loud to her (especially about typology) helped form my thoughts more solid and helped me see them clearly, I felt like I got new insights and ideas from saying things out loud to her.

Do people of these types get along well with each other? Is communication easy?

Yes. And Yes. I do remember a couple times though where we misunderstood each other.

It was a misunderstanding in how she takes much longer than me to observe something and make a decision, to me it can seem like her mind is made up but she actually is still making up her mind. I'm wired different my mind is made up much quicker and usually doesn't change unless I'm given a reason to. And she also mistakes decisions I make as temporary and like my mind is still being made up, when in reality my mind is already made up.

For example, I eat a huge meal. She asks me if I want seconds, I tell her no I'm full, (and when I say I'm full I mean I don't want any food for a long time, like 2-3 hours), 5 minutes later she'll ask me again if I want seconds lol, (in her mind when I said I was full she thought I meant I was full but maybe in a few minutes I'll change my mind). Things like that caused some misunderstanding, but they weren't anything serious.

There was one time we had a Ni/Ne sort of conversation, she did not like Fe/Ti (She knew typology), she jokingly was like "What is Fe/Ti good for why do these people exist." I pointed to a number of examples of what Fe and Ti are good for, pretty surface level stuff, like polite customer service, and E=Mc squared, idk what it means but I'm pretty sure it's important since it was a scientific revolution. After that she actually told me I had a point lol.

Would such a relationship pose any risks to the safety of those involved?

Uh, I don't think so. Not for type reasons at least lol.

Where does this kind of relationship rank?

IME, with only one person, it was the second best relationship I've had.