What are some times that you have been initially attracted to your conflictor (or any other type with a "bad" ITR)? Was it a weird feeling?
Conflictor Attraction
What are some times that you have been initially attracted to your conflictor (or any other type with a "bad" ITR)? Was it a weird feeling?
The Barnum or Forer effect is the tendency for people to judge that general, universally valid statements about personality are actually specific descriptions of their own personalities. A "universally valid" statement is one that is true of everyone—or, more likely, nearly everyone. It is not known why people tend to make such misjudgments, but the effect has been experimentally reproduced.
The psychologist Paul Meehl named this fallacy "the P.T. Barnum effect" because Barnum built his circus and dime museum on the principle of having something for everyone. It is also called "the Forer effect" after its discoverer, the psychologist Bertram R. Forer, who modestly dubbed it "the fallacy of personal validation".
was attracted to a conflictor online before... but knew that's what it was so nothing came of it. Communication was so awful and bad, they never said 'what I wanted them to say' and vice versa so to speak, but they thought I was a submissive EII and it turned them on a lot too.
I'm not one to simply follow my primal animalistic lust because I'm not a sensor. so its rather easy for me to feel the attraction and to ignore it and do something else anyway. that's kinda why the other person has to be the right kind of forward with me. I suppose that's sorta typical "victim" mating rituals idk. Some people get so pissed about this like 'stop teasing me you're driving me crazy' but its like, you just have to rape me without raping me- can you do it? If you're confused by that or morally triggered or don't know exactly what I mean- or you try to sexually abuse me for real - ur not my SLE Chad sorry. Bye.
delta bdsm stereotype confirmed btw lol.
Se doms look cool and have lives.
Last edited by Lord Pixel; 05-10-2022 at 02:31 AM.
I think ESEs can come in many forms. There are lot of Karen-y ESEs that irritate me. There are also ESEs who are extremely beautiful, well-kempt, and dressed fashionably. I've been attracted to them, but it only works from afar, things break down right when communication starts.
ILEs can seems like everything i'm not in a good way a lot of the time. I appreciate people that are optimistic, knowledgeable and have a broad sense of perspective
Last edited by Averroes; 05-13-2022 at 02:10 AM.
My supervisor ex (SEE) was the type closest to a conflictor because of our subtypes. Forbidden fruit type attraction, felt very "wrong" but exciting.
With actual SLEs, I've had an online crush on one who didn't know I existed, but never in real life. I hope it never happens.
Originally Posted by PinKDiGiT18
I am curious what felt wrong about it? I think of my supervisor, they seem like fragile beings who wish to be strong, indecisive minds that wish to be certain. I'm fortunate to have such nonthreatening supervisors. I imagine a relationship with them to be irritating and filled with misunderstandings.
I would actually bang Maritsa.
It felt like I was in love with someone from a different planet. It felt like I was going into it knowing it wouldn’t work out because we would never truly comprehend each other, but I was so attracted to him that I didn’t care.
What is your type/supervisor’s type?
Oh I didn't realize I didn't mention my type lol, I am ILI. So I was talking about EIEs.
But what you mentioned about knowing it will fail but plunging forward anyway, yeah I can see that with conflictor relations.
I went on a date with an SLE girl, not because of type just from physical attraction. On the date I found out she was SLE, she had a reckless spontenous streak and we had a small debate about whether telling someone the truth at all costs is important or whether you should consider how you tell someone the truth (tone), classic F/T debate. She also tried to go back to my place, which seemed pretty quick to me. She found out that I like to draw so she asked me to draw something for her. When I gave her the drawing she loved it and told me she would get it tattooed, I gave her a sort of weird look because the drawing took up a whole page and was just not well designed for a tattoo, it had square borders and would have looked weird, but when she saw that I didn't smile ear to ear from what she thought would be the greatest compliment to me she said it again and repeated a couple times "Yea I'm gonna get this tatted, I really am" and even years later after not seeing her for all that time we bump into each other and she still says "Hey, you remember me, I'm gonna get that pictured tatted" at this point I know she's not, I never thought about it either, but now I know she's saying it to try to get that Fe response from me, maybe that would light up an IEI artist and she was subconsciously thinking I was one.
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