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    Default How do you deal with imposter syndrome?

    Do you have it? If so, how do you deal with it?

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome

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    fake it till u make it
    u aernt something until u are
    and then if u mess up then u messed up like people think if ur competent at something u will be consistent with it but its not how it works
    when u fail it means u were a fake but everyone makes mistakes this is not to say that u shouldnt try to improve
    if u repeat a lie long enough it becomes the truth u can brainwash urself into learning things including personalities
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    I’ve had moments of self-doubt, but I don’t think that’s the same thing as imposter syndrome

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    Yes. To me this just relates to a thing that we do not live in a void but I think realizing this helps to overcome most adversities and to learn to embrace collaboration as a contributor.
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    I think imposter syndrome is a product of a highly competitive and socially disharmonious environment. Most Tech companies are this way, Universities too.

    EDIT: oops I didn't answer the question. I don't really know how to deal with it, it makes me stressed out. In these environments not appearing the way you need to will actually affect your career.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VewyScawwyNawcissist View Post
    fake it till u make it
    u aernt something until u are
    and then if u mess up then u messed up like people think if ur competent at something u will be consistent with it but its not how it works
    when u fail it means u were a fake but everyone makes mistakes this is not to say that u shouldnt try to improve
    if u repeat a lie long enough it becomes the truth u can brainwash urself into learning things including personalities
    A sad truth that the great enemy has taken great advantage of. Though I will disagree with the sentiment of "You aren't something until you are."

    In the past I'd have agreed with you. Now? Now I'm not so sure. I'm now more of the opinion that you always were that thing you imagined but other BS kept you from realizing that. The primary source of Imposter Syndrome that I will dig into shortly.

    Quote Originally Posted by Eudaemonia View Post
    I think imposter syndrome is a product of a highly competitive and socially disharmonious environment. Most Tech companies are this way, Universities too.

    EDIT: oops I didn't answer the question. I don't really know how to deal with it, it makes me stressed out. In these environments not appearing the way you need to will actually affect your career.
    As above and as you probably already guessed, Imposter Syndrome springs primarily from attachment issues. The broken are constantly in a state of impostering whatever they think/perceive to be what those around them want them to be. The greatest fear of such people is that they'll get found out somehow. The problem is compounded by the fact that those with said issues cannot detect what exactly it is that will cause people to reject and abandon them. Everyone else can clearly and easily see what is wrong with you, but you cannot. Thus you'd best fake everything to minimize the risk of you dying horribly.

    I wish I was being hyperbolic here but I am not. Getting found out as a minor fake is embarrassing but ultimately not fatal. At least in the modern world...

    Also why I say the "fix" is easy on paper but ultimately a Herculean effort in practice. All ya gotta do to fix your attachment issues is to do what your brain is screaming at you is the equivalent of...

    Well, I'll use the example that spoke to me. Can you charge over "No Man's Land" in WWI when that bastard of an officer who blew the whistle will be the REMF you all know will go up and over last?

    I know I sound like a crazy person but that's how it really is. Your brain will scream at you that you will die if you try to be honest and open with your own blood relations! No, knowing how this works won't help sadly. I now know all about how this works and the instant I get distracted I slip into being a dumbass broken ILI and then only catch myself after the fact. At least it has provided profitable results I'll say. Profitable in the sense that that I'm slowly getting my direct family to admit I'm actually right about all this...

    Might be a hidden advantage of being an ILI. We do get a handy dandy "emotional" kill switch. Provided we even remember we can punch that thing when things get a wee bit emotional...

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    Quote Originally Posted by End View Post
    As above and as you probably already guessed, Imposter Syndrome springs primarily from attachment issues. The broken are constantly in a state of impostering whatever they think/perceive to be what those around them want them to be. The greatest fear of such people is that they'll get found out somehow. The problem is compounded by the fact that those with said issues cannot detect what exactly it is that will cause people to reject and abandon them. Everyone else can clearly and easily see what is wrong with you, but you cannot. Thus you'd best fake everything to minimize the risk of you dying horribly.
    Next level

    Someone: I broke my phone in a row. Is that happen to anyone, what can I do to prevent it?
    End: This springs primarily from attachment issues. The broken are constantly in a state of broking things..continues..

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    Quote Originally Posted by myresearch View Post
    Next level

    Someone: I broke my phone in a row. Is that happen to anyone, what can I do to prevent it?
    End: This springs primarily from attachment issues. The broken are constantly in a state of broking things..continues..
    That made me chuckle. Still, from the standpoint of relationships and most psychological disorders I'm not wrong on this.

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    People with bipolar may struggle with imposter syndrome now and then. It's why they come off meds at times. "Maybe I don't really need them. Maybe I'm fine. Maybe I was just being (lazy/hyper/whatever alternative) before."

    Not sure how to deal with it. It's not a well studied thing in the psych field, honestly. In the case of bipolar people, they just keep going until they realize "Oh shit, I actually do need meds" as a result of seeing their own symptoms recur.
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    You remove your ego attachment to your competence and achievements

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    Quote Originally Posted by End View Post
    That made me chuckle. Still, from the standpoint of relationships and most psychological disorders I'm not wrong on this.
    When a person gets too attached to certain way of looking at things, they see everything with that gaze alone and they try to make sense everything in terms of that gaze alone. It can be a hit or miss but it doesn't seem to reflect reality more so it seems to reflect that person's attachment to that gaze.

    When a person evolves from that, they can see things with that gaze when it matters not in everything. They don't attribute too much things into it since they are above it not under it.

    So what I mean is End, if you figure out away to broke your attachment to attachment issues, you can see and assess things with a clear sight like we all do when we get into a subject too much that gives us some revelations and when we get above of it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xerx View Post
    Do you have it? If so, how do you deal with it?

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome
    It comes from overfocusing on your own performance (in socionics terms, you're acting too much on your super-ego).

    Solution: get yourself out of the focus, try to help someone with something, then when you realize how easily you can solve it, the sense of incompetence will vanish. When it does, be careful not to fall for dunning-kruger effect and thinking you are way more competent that you actually are.

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    Most people should have imposter syndrome, in my opinion

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    To me living in society requires everybody to have Imposter Syndrome in a sense. Article even states 70% of people experience something like it. You deal with it- by either moving to a place that accepts your identity better or riding out the wave of dynamic Te. Society is like a well-oiled machine that has to sacrifice your immortal demons to function. Some demons that aren't even that harmful but still scapegoated - you have to pretend they don't exist and play the game or your entire being will be punished. "Just tell the therapist how you really feel, so we can help you!" - ie just lie and manipulate us - or we will get Umbridge in here. You're really gonna regret it if you're actually honest."

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    Reading the text of the question on the homepage of the site, I thought you were talking about the imposter in Among us

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