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    What is beauty? What is love?
    Beauty is defined by society. Both psychological and physical. Even if you think you somehow have a unique and separated view of beauty, you don't. In some sense, it will be influenced by societal standards of beauty, for how to act and how to look. It's unfortunate and inevitable. However, if I'd like to somehow state what beauty means "to me" I'd say that it is beautiful when someone is who they are regardless of what others think. But typically when people think of "beauty" I believe physical traits come to mind.. of which I have no preference for others to have. If you think about it, everyone can be physically beautiful. For example, you begin to have deep and strong feelings for someone who you previously deemed unattractive, you slowly begin to accept their "ugly" traits and see them as a more beautiful person; your love for them blinds you, and this is truly a beautiful thing that we should all strive for, in every relationship so as to see that everyone is truly beautiful.
    What are your most important values?
    - Devotion, strength. Not being cowardly when the chips are down. Be able to stick up for what you believe in, do not shy away from presenting your values and challenging others back if they do so to yours. If you're someone who's quiet when bad shit happens, your existence is a problem and you seriously need to work on that. If you see some immoral action take place.. say or do something. It's not so hard and you shouldn't be concerned about what others think of you there. Your morals need to be able to stand on their own, they shouldn't be in jeopardy when external factors (status, image, money) come in.

    - Honesty. When I was younger, I believe I had a lying problem. I'd lie a lot, truly for no reason. I believe, now as I look back, that it was so I could be admired and gather attention from others. "Oh! He's so cool she did x y and z" and people would talk about me. I am disgusted now by my past self and whenever possible, tell the truth. I get a guilty moral conscience relatively quickly unlike my past self. I now almost always tell the truth, unless very necessary to not do so, and I'm pretty proud of myself for that. I also dislike hypocrisy, I believe people need to practice what they preach.

    - Loyalty. You should be friends with someone because you enjoy who they are as a person, not because you have some other motive and are using them. That's disgusting. If you're going to become friends with someone, keep in mind how long the relationship will last... do not just be friends with someone, get bored of them, and then leave them. Once you have a friend, they are your friend for as long as possible.

    - Authenticity. To pretend you are something you're not, especially around close ones, is equivalent to using and manipulating them. Be who you are. If others do not like that, then that's a good thing. You've learned who not to hang around and who to do so. Making true connections is easier if you simply are who you are, without any filter.
    Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
    Yes, I believe in a God, heaven, and hell. I only do so because I get extremely depressed if I dwell on the fact that this life has no meaning rather than a hellish cycle of oppressing others, benefitting from them, throwing them away, and repeat. I do not wish to expand on my religious beliefs. I keep them because I need to in order to live. This is not hyperbolic.
    Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
    Disgusting. I'm certainly biased, I'm an anarchist. Militaries should not exist, war shouldn't be an option that's contemplated. War is simply an excuse used by those in power to attain materials, gain influence, and harm innocent people. It's disgusting. Rarely is there even an even playing field.

    Power isn't so important to me but I believe power is dependent on others. You can be a strong person physically and you can have money and such... but one must realize that this is in some part connected to others. For example, one can be very influential but really only gets to that point from others, such as a president who ought to be voted in by everyone or someone who inherits their money from a wealthy person. Everyone is interconnected in this sense, and power wouldn't exist if the collective decided against giving someone power. Unfortunately, people do not realize the own individual power they hold, keeping their eyes shut, unfortunately.
    What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?
    I am interested in political theory, philosophy, typology, psychology, English, and speaking with my friends. I don't have reasoning as to "why" and I don't think one is necessary. I like what I like, that's it. Accumulating knowledge just for the sake of having it, exploring opinions just for the sake of learning something new, and speaking with friends just to feel something meaningful. Reasons aren't necessary here. I like to discuss hypotheticals with friends and ask them what they would do if placed in a certain situation, like moral hypotheticals like "would you pull the lever" and such. Sometimes these discussions become debates and if that's the case I usually "win" them either because I come off as scary in debate or because I'm smart... I'm definitely leaning toward the former. I've been told by my girlfriend and many others that I'm intimidating when arguing, so I'm working on being nicer. I also like to know if my friends have a certain taste of people, I like to get to know all of their likes and dislikes, what foods they like, what colors. If they dislike someone, I want to know why so I can see if I agree or disagree.
    Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?
    No... those both sound excruciatingly boring and I don't know anyone besides one boring person who would be. I'm not very body-focused. All of this is boring conversation and useless because I probably will not listen to others if they gave me health advice anyway. I can do fine on my own, bodily, at least.
    What do you think of daily chores?
    Very boring but something that must be done and that I can push myself to do. However, if it comes to things like homework I would desperately do literally anything else. I spend a lot of time engaging in conversation and reading and watching things rather than that. I have a very hard time finishing homework, knowing how much time homework will take (often underestimating, because I do not take into account that I have poor focus and procrastinate badly), and actually pushing myself to do it. I cannot just focus on one thing at once, I have to be doing multiple things all at the same time otherwise I will get bored. I naturally will be multitasking.
    Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.
    I mostly read political theory and random movies that a lot of other people are watching that I haven't watched yet. For example, I have only recently watched Mean Girls and 365 days. The former was good but the latter was utterly horrible and had a gross and sudden end. Most books I read that aren't about political theory or philosophy are dystopian novels. I love dystopian novels because they often connect to real-world issues. Most are capitalism-related and express what happens when the state and capitalism are unchecked... they are so engaging. They also express issues such as sexism, they rarely only show one issue, though. They exhibit so many into one book it's great. Some examples would be the series "The Young Elites," or "Steelheart." I've read almost every dystopian book that I can get my hands on.
    What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?
    I will do this by whatever has happened recently. I believe 2 days ago I had lost a friend who had meant something to me very deeply. She had a crush on me and vented to me about how she felt nothing towards her friends. She feels no platonic love, only romantic. When I had asked "does our relationship mean anything to you, then?" she said, "Yes it means a lot to me because I have romantic feelings for you." I responded, "And if you didn't?" She said, "I'd feel bad answering that question." That's more than enough of an answer for me, and I told her "I don't think it would. Goodbye." I think it's disgusting and that people who are like her are undeserving of both platonic and romantic love. I also have not been so heartbroken in perhaps a couple of years. Every single one of my relationships is intense and beautiful, I feel such deep connections towards every single one of my friends, platonically probably. I felt like my heart cracked, I blocked her on everything and did cry for a solid 2 hours before falling asleep at maybe 3 AM. I usually feel a sudden burst of emotion and that is when I KNOW a relationship will be going on for a while. When this occurs, I start treating them as I treat my closer friends, which is far softer and I'd say nicer compared to how I treat anyone else. Basically, anyone who is in my close circle gets special treatment. I was shocked to see that my... I suppose "intuition" was wrong, for the first time. It never has been before, and it resulted in both confusion and a deep sense of loss. However, I do not believe I miss her because she is undeserving of me and any friends. I am fine now, I think. She better fix herself, though. Gross behavior.

    What made me smile was when a friend of mine and I were on FaceTime, talking about random interests and he suddenly said, "Hey, have I ever told you how much you meant to me?" I had no words, I literally said "wow so true" because I could not properly put into words my love for him. I feel bad now, because he means so much to me, too. I did text him later saying that he meant a lot to me, too, I just have issues saying it out loud, I don't know why. I thought what he said was very beautiful and I was quite flustered, in a great way, as a result for the rest of the night. I still think of that moment and cherish it, in my mind of course.
    Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?
    When I am with friends or surrounded by people. I am very socially extroverted so even if it's with strangers it is better than being alone in my room or something like that. I enjoy talking with people, giving them compliments (only if they are genuine), making people feel good, and such. I am someone who quickly feels lonely and thus necessitates others almost all the time. I need to be doing things with others. Although I have the ability to work silently in my room. I will just feel bored and lonely while doing so. I cannot live without others, so I am my best when surrounded by close friends and laughing or having meaningful conversations. I prefer small groups or just one on one conversations, so it can truly be intimate and I can get to know someone as they truly are without filters.
    What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
    Others (and what I agree with to an extent): Blunt, loud, impulsive, irrational with action, manipulative. I don't agree with the last one, which my siblings stated. I only am manipulative when I truly need to be when I need resources for myself or others. I dislike that I am so in the moment and impulsive. I'm fine with being blunt and loud. Being blunt is a way to say being honest. Being impulsive results in missing chances or better actions I could have taken if I literally waited just a couple more seconds or thought before doing but no. I simply think and immediately act. Or I feel upset or angry and immediately take it upon others. I always feel bad after doing so, and feel weird apologizing but can sometimes force myself to do so. I am working on my impulsivity issue. I also have a lack of willpower when it comes to finishing tasks, but this is mainly just homework. Everything else I can finish just fine. I want better motivation to finish work and not be lazy. My work completely depends on how I feel, if I am feeling motivated I work. Sometimes I don't and then I just don't work. I'd argue almost everything depends on how I feel. How I treat others depends on how I feel, how I work, when I work, if I work, how much I eat. I really need to do something about my emotions, I need to take control and act with restraint and think. Act slower but be able to push through emotions. I also dislike that I do repress any sad emotions I feel, so I do not feel them consciously but will continue to act upon them. But then I do not repress emotions like anger or wrath, so I need to start doing that.
    What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
    I remember my friends describing me as, and I quote: "Mean! But nice to some people. But definitely not a bad person. We all love you." I don't really mind being considered mean. I guess my strengths are that I think I am, to an extent, a person of moral capabilities and that I have good people skills. Both of my siblings are to an extent socially awkward, or at least aren't as good as me in the realm of people so I do all of that kind of work for them. I'm good at convincing people, good at getting them to like me (even when I don't know I'm doing this or do it purposefully), good at making them laugh or feel good about themselves, etc. I make friends easily. I'd also say I'm a very devoted person and loyal, I'd never leave my friends unless they did something reprehensible. I'd also say I'm very decisive and rarely ever change my mind on things. I have the capability to hear others out and think they're right, but this is rare and I usually think I am right with almost anything. My friends and family also describe me as a good entertainer who is always able to make things interesting, and also funny. I think I agree with this. My siblings both lack spines to an extent and are unable to do "big things" like talking to people they are scared of and standing up for themselves, so they say I do a good job of doing this for them. I like almost everything about myself, I am pretty self-accepting but I am not blind to my solid amount of faults.
    In what areas of your life would you like help?
    I prefer to work out problems on my own, I don't really want to ask for help nor enjoy doing so. However, I suppose having someone who thinks before acting, who is more restrained is good. But they better do it in a soft, suggesting manner. If they start ordering me around I will immediately do the opposite of what they told me not to do and try to piss them off or cuss them out. I also want someone who can motivate me to do my work, who can lift my mood and encourage me to work. I also need someone who is emotionally honest and loyal. Someone who's straightforward with their emotions because I have issues with expressing how I really feel or even properly knowing what I really feel.
    Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
    No, I don't believe I have. Or perhaps I just do not properly understand what it means to be "stuck in a rut." I could imagine myself feeling this way if I am alone and isolated and not surrounded by people I love, though. Life immediately becomes cold and desolate without people.
    What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
    I like people who are congruent with my values as I shared above. People who have morals, who are honest, straightforward, good with emotions, slower to action, and restrained to a degree because I am not. I need someone who is calm so they can calm me down so I do not immediately burst into rage or action. What types do I get along with? Like socionics? I've noticed I always get along with ESEs, most SEIs, and Deltas generally. I have never gotten along with anyone who was gamma SF. They typically dislike me and I dislike them but I don't want to group in so many people together, I only know like 2 so I'm sure there are many that are great out there somewhere. Just from my experience with an ESI mother and SEE acquaintance. LSIs and ESIs both dislike me usually because I am completely unhinged and irrational with action. I do not get along well with Fi PoLR. I find them generally disgusting people. I feel bad saying this because I'm sure there are.. a few people who are Fi PoLR who aren't absolutely disgusting but I really cannot help it. Especially Se base and Fi PoLR sounds like a very disgusting combination. My father is SLE and the friend who I referenced before was ILE. No thank you.

    I dislike cowardice, bad people, emotionally distant people, disloyal, manipulative people, unengaged/aloof, or boring people.
    How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
    Romance is romance, I think it is beautiful if it is real and long-lasting, and not some meaningless fling as I see a lot of. Sex is... sex. I feel no emotion towards it it is just something that happens between people. I think with people I'd like to say I'm relatively flexible and I get along with almost anybody from my experience. Again, as I've said before, someone calming, restrained, kind, emotionally honest, loyal, morally bound, soft, and helpful with my lack of restraint and pre-thought.
    If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
    I'd probably force how I view the world onto them. I know this sounds bad but I'm talking about it politically, they need to have the same beliefs as me. I'd take great care to make sure they do not slip into any kind of alt-right thought via their propaganda. They also will be instilled with any morals that I at the time have. I'd also make sure that I allow for them to be emotionally honest and good at expressing their emotions and not immediately numb them out as I do. I'd also be sure that they know basic street smarts and how to stand up for themselves. If you cannot stand on your own then you will not be able to get anywhere in this world. I will not ever abandon them but I will give them a lot of tips on how to be independent and self-sufficient when it comes to finances and such.
    A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
    It depends, what kind of belief? If it's a logical belief I will probably let them finish their sentence but then immediately correct them. If it's a moral one, I'd probably look at them weird to let them know that they need to stop talking, and then explain why what they said was wrong. I'd like to say I'm an accepting person but I would probably judge them very harshly and let them know that I am doing so. Inwards? I'd be shocked that they said that and probably disgusted with them as a person. I'd probably be able to feel myself intimately taking a step back if this makes sense. Like emotional distancing.
    Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
    Fine, I suppose. I used to be anti-society, not really in the "edgy" way but rather politically because I believed it was wrong that predominant society would be able to influence individuals with such strength. Society kills off individualism. However, I inevitably came to the conclusion that society is necessary in order to get what we need to live, everyone is interconnected and ought to help each other out if we wish to live. Cooperation is necessary and society is also necessary, unfortunately. I could name a whole load of social issues but I'd say most of them stem from Capitalism. Capitalism separates us into groups and forces conflict upon us. The separation of sex, gender, race, none of which are necessary and by categorizing ourself we blind ourselves and get caught up, not realizing the bigger, looming issue. Capitalism makes life meaningless and forces us to leave behind morals.
    How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
    As I said previously, I usually feel something intense and I just know. I can't really put it into words, sorry. But I do make sure to see if they're a good person and if I get along with them well, similar humor and political views. I love to crack jokes and have meaningful conversations about their feelings or views on the world or people. I am someone who necessitates a lot of physical touch, I will hold their hands as I'm speaking to them or pet them, I do this unconsciously and I realize it after I do it. I like to express that I love them via gifts I know they'd specifically appreciate, compliment their insecurities that I pick up on, or encourage them towards their goals. I can usually come off as mean towards my friends but I show my love via loving insults but the occasional compliment when I see they need it.
    How do you behave around strangers?
    I treat them as I treat most people. Of course, not with the extent of love that I treat my dearest ones, but I treat them with respect and usually make conversation with them. I can come off as familiar or easygoing. I would still, of course, prefer to speak to my close friends rather than strangers.

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    ESE seems right. I have an LII sister and you seem like the opposite side of the coin to her.

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    That's pretty cool. Is there reasoning as to why besides that?

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    Positivist, Merry, Democratic, Dynamic, and Result.
    Arthur Schopenhauer (ILI-Ni):

    • “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”


    Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel (ILI-Te):


    • "The history of the world is none other than the progress of the consciousness of freedom."



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    Cool what does that mean

    Edit: Never mind I got it, but do you only type via Reinin dichotomies?
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    Not just that actually, but those are useful.
    Arthur Schopenhauer (ILI-Ni):

    • “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”


    Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel (ILI-Te):


    • "The history of the world is none other than the progress of the consciousness of freedom."



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