Originally Posted by
crazymaisy
Mentally unhealty SEE that one is dualized with is .... let's just say the past 5 years have been filled with ups and downs just because he will not eat how I say he should, not pressing it, just saying it once, and then weeks later one minor reminder and boom RED BUTTON forever.
Drinks horrid high gravity beer, buys too much of it, proxy buy it for so many other dumb people, also going to brew places every Sat/Sun to pick up beer, meet others, drink too much.
On and off it goes. So any good times are with me putting up with this shite.
It's not fun. He's way too fat and with problems. He needs to stop drinking and eating so much carbs. Seriously, I am the last person on earth that cares about diets to the nth degree but I am super into KETO eating now and when I started he was OK with it, wanting to do it, left on a business trip and came house with that RED BOTTON press down and seems to be glued with crazy glue.
Long time ago he got rid of a lot of weight. He was not drinking much, and he was nice and all that.
He put on even more weight that before in the past few years. He just seems to want to destroy himself, and every bit of me trying to ignore it or mention it, or yell about it, same result.
He's faithful to me, but I almost do not care about that anymore.
POS wants to make me not have a 30th Anniversary (August 2022).
As for semi-dual: One of my sons is SLE and we have a great time together sometimes, and leave each other alone then, just interesting stuff. This is the kind of relationship I like very much.
I hate sex now for a long time. Sex is too complicating for relationships. I'm a lifetime married person, it's great when it can be with DUAL but when they decide to go off the rails, it's really all on them but ruins everything. ILI can do without sex. Oh man yes. I love that. I mean really love it. I liked it when I could have babies because of it. So what's the point anymore. Right? Right.
SEE melt down every so often. That's not this. He's got symptoms (mental and guts) of needing to eat better and not drink so much. If the light would shine on him, everything could get better. It's up to him and God.
Second idea here though I don't know if my DUAL is just plain weird, but the last week before Christmas he acts like Mr. Scrooge. Grumpy and complaining. He makes holidays, not fun, unless I can ignore him and have many plates spinning for the holiday.
His birthday, and mine, is in July. 1 Year and 8 days older than me. Guess what he's like around his birthday, Mr. Grugy Scrooge, and it bleeds all the way to my birthday.
I love Christmas and my Birthday. F you for making it miserable too often Mr. Dual.
Other than that. Dual's can be great. I'm in the middle of a time with improving and it's like he won't because I am. So it's hard to sludge though it all.