I AM YOUR HOLY TOTEM
I AM YOUR SICK TABOO
RADICAL AND RADIANT
I'M YOUR NIGHTMARE COMING TRUE
I AM YOUR WORST ENEMY
I AM YOUR DEAREST FRIEND
MALIGNANTLY MALEVOLENT
I AM OF DIVINE DESCENT
I AM YOUR UNCONSCIOUSNESS
I AM UNRESTRAINED EXCESS
METAMORPHIC RESTLESSNESS
I'M YOUR UNEXPECTEDNESS
I AM YOUR APOCALYPSESTRAY BULLET
I AM YOUR BELIEF UNWROUGHT
MONOLITHIC JUGGERNAUT
FROM THE HEAVENS ABOVE
STRAY BULLET
READY OR NOT
I'M THE ILLEGITIMATE SON OF GOD
I meant to reply with my thoughts to your other post, but this one sums up your thoughts better.
I don't know if we can generalize by saying men have to fuck a certain way and women another way (or the same way). Everyone is different, and that's the scary part, discovering yourself, and that the prescriptions of others may not work for you.
I think men want to have more sex simply because society rewards their ego when they "get laid". And the reason women don't (or don't want it to be known if they do) is because they are more often shamed for it. The reality is that women in our day and age have less to fear from getting pregnant (due to the existence of contraception) and more from the taboos associated with women's sexuality and shaming (in western society, much less than in some others but old attitudes die hard). The biological instinct is to have sex, because our instinct is to breed. Biologcally speaking, we are animals, not spiritual beings with a moral conscience.
Edit: That said though, we are not purely machines of breeding. Sex is spiritual too, not just biological. So no matter who you are, sleeping around might not be the best lifestyle because the attachment formed without a relationship to back it up can be unhealthy and lead to trauma. That said, if a person wants to sleep around with a billion partners, I think that's their choice and won't shame them for it.
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Fucking helps relieve stress in men. Going out and trying to use and conquest and manage chaotic relationships with multiple women isn’t exactly a recipe for happiness for most men either. Most men shouldn’t be fucking like men are told they should either, nevermind women.
If you believe evolutionary psychologists (which is a bit of a risk), women prefer 'alpha males' when engaging in casual sex, 'beta males' when looking to settle down and raise a family.
This is actually untrue, despite it being seemingly intuitive knowledge to many people, as the alpha/beta theory has been long disproven to exist even in wolf hierarchies, which was where these archetypes actually originated from. Women also no longer have a preference for this archetype in modern society. It was an ideal that men used to strive for, and we've since redefined it as "toxic masculinity." Perhaps this is because it was never natural to begin with.
I was going to write more, but I had to use the toilet.
Yes, you are correct. The wolf hierarchies study was disproved. The 'alpha male' was only bigger because he was the father of the pack (which is a nuclear family), whereas the 'beta males' turned out to be his young children. It makes perfect sense for a father to be bigger and more dominant than his puppies. The scientist who made that study spent years trying to correct this misconception.
Evo-psych is a pretty mixed bag. There was a MAJOR evo-psych claim that women were attracted to muscular alpha males during ovulation (at their peak fertility), whereas they preferred more family-oriented males during the rest of their period. That finding caused ripples because of how provocative it was. It has also completely failed to replicate.
But the most damning thing of all is this: evo-psych glosses over the question of free will, which is nevertheless still an open question. I see it as a perfect complement to our culture of mass advertising and mass control.