What do you study or do for a living? How did you come to do that? What do you like or dislike about it?
Iím majoring in Digital Media and Communications, which is a pretty good choice for me since work in this field is varied and creative. Most of the jobs arenít the 9-to-5 kind, thereís always something new going on, they generally match my interests, every time I learn stuff it feels like Iím growing as a person. I enjoy influencing others through my work and getting appreciated for my effort. How did I get here? Well, back when I was still a kid I thought money was the most important thing to me and that I should repress my desire to go after what my heart wanted, so I went into the wrong major telling myself I could take it. Turns out I donít have the endurance to do that, and I also need to feel satisfied with what Iím doing to some degree.
What else do you do on a daily basis? What are your interests and hobbies? Why do you do them?
Tough to answer this since Iím unpredictable.I basically wake up every morning saying Iím going to do something useful today. I do have my usual activities like eating, relaxing, playing games or watching TV, but in the end what truly matters to me is those parts of the day when Iím working towards my end goal - becoming my best. Sometimes this translates to doing something big like picking up a new skill, or something smaller like figuring out that I like my fries without ketchup. Everything in my world revolves around this idea; every new hobby/interest is seen as a way to improve myself and become a more well rounded individual than I was before. Iím not necessarily going to go deep into a hobby - in most cases I end up moving to something else in a matter of a few months - but everything I gather comes together to form my own impression of how the world works. I want to experience everything that interests me and find ways to show the world how capable I am.
What are your values, and why?
In no particular order: logic, independence, loyalty, adaptability, authenticity, intelligence, curiosity, fairness. I probably missed a few, but the point is that the further we distance ourselves from our primitive nature, the better. I expect others to do their best the same way I am, making use of whatís inside their heads. I despise hedonistic activities and short-sightedness. An optimist could say that Iím an old soul who just wants to see the best humanity has to offer, whereas a skeptic could say Iím just being a selfish d*ck who wants everything to go my way. Take it as you will.
Describe your relationships with family and friends. What do you like and dislike about them?
Thereís quite a bit of conflict between me and my family, we always run into something that causes our personalities to clash. Lots and lots of annoyances that sometimes make me want to just pack my things up and leave, but despite all this Iíd say our family is relatively stable nonetheless. I may not like my dad as a person, but as a parent heís passable - he plays the parent role just fine (with lots of room for improvement, but I wonít go in detail) and provides the physical comfort I need. My younger brother may be the kind of person I wouldnít even talk to, but as his older sibling I do try to help him out with advice sometimes. Itís sort of a contract between us, you know.
My relationships with friends are rather cold and distant. If you asked me how many friends I have I could write you a list and maybe put 4-5 names on it, but in reality it feels Iíve got zero. Weíve known each other for half a decade but we talk to each other pretty rarely, like once a month. I wish we could get closer, since Iím tired of feeling lonely, but that probably wouldnít work out. Itís hard for me to do something about it, so why donít they do it instead? Do they even care about me that much? It always feels like Iím not really that significant to them, so instead of trying to work with what I have Iíd rather look for new opportunities elsewhere. For now Iím just glad Iíve got someone I can hang out with in case I feel like it. I donít think weíre anything alike, our thought process is radically different, but weíre just compatible enough in order to have fun without having any sort of serious disagreements.
What do you look for in friends? In romantic relationships?
Someone who gets me and appreciates me for who I am, shares the same interests and opinions. I need someone who I can trust and isnít too shy about showing their affection towards me. Consistency. I need to know they wonít get bored of me in a couple weeks/months and abandon me without saying a word, like in most cases.
What conflicts have you encountered recently with other people? Why did they happen? Which kinds seem to happen on a regular basis?
Canít think of anything too recent or relevant. I usually get in conflict with the kinds of people I dislike (because I canít hold back from showing my annoyance with them), those who wonít listen to what I say and ignore the facts right in front of them, people who try to make me do something without explaining why, anyone who doesnít mind their business and reads too deep into things so they can ďcancelĒ me. First oneís on me because Iím not very accepting of others unless they fit my criteria, the rest because they were being dumb.
What are your strengths? What do people like about you? What do you like about yourself?
What I like about myself: Iím smart, I can do a lot of things, I look okay, I give good advice, I can spot an opportunity and take it, I have good taste in media, my values, I can think clearly without letting my emotions or instincts get the best of me, very determined under the right circumstances. I think those who know me appreciate the same things more or less. Ironically Iíve heard Iím easy to get along with even though Iím unwilling to be friends with 9 out of 10 people.
What are your weaknesses? What criticism do you often face from others? What do you dislike about yourself?
Self criticism: Iím not sometimes not patient enough and I want to get things done as soon as possible, I canít stay focused on one thing for too long, somewhat lazy, I can get greedy and even a bit jealous, jack-of-all-trades but master of none (again, yes), my health isnít the best. Criticism from others: Iím arrogant and act like a know-it-all, Iím too quiet and unfriendly, too pretentious, bad at physical tasks, unemotional, canít enjoy the small things in life. I feel like Iím lagging behind a bit in life because of my laziness.
In what areas of life can you manage well on your own? In what areas of your life would you like help?
I can manage well on my own when it comes to anything work related or personal, like my feelings/thoughts on something. I don't need others to tell me what to do since I can always come up with something on my own. "I want to do X, so I'll go through A and B. If B doesn't work, I'll consider C". Obviously I might need a hand when it comes to actually doing A, B, C, which is fine. Asking others for their thoughts on my Socionics since they understand it better is part of the process, for example.
Iíd appreciate help when it comes to housework and smaller physical stuff. Cooking, taking out the trash, cleaning. Iím too lazy to do these. I could also use some help from someone with a stronger presence in the real world, since I have plenty of ideas but canít always put them into practice. I lack connections and power, so certain goals canít be achieved (yet).
What things do you dislike doing? What things do you enjoy more than others?
I donít know, I think at this point you can already get an idea about what I like and dislike. You definitely will by the end of this thing, so I donít want to repeat myself.
What goals, aspirations, or plans do you have for the future, and why?
I want to find a way to become financially independent so I can live my life to its fullest. I want to leave my mark on the world somehow so I can prove to myself, and to others, that Iím something special. The least thing Iíd want to do is end up with a mediocre life.
If you won the lottery and didn't have to work anymore, what would you do?
Iíd use that money to accomplish my dreams, and as a bonus, get a taste of what it feels like to be part of the upper class. I would buy expensive things, travel around the world, start my own business, focus on self-improvement. Iíd still need something to keep me moving after all, I donít think I could just sit still for the rest of my life.
What traits do you find endearing that others might dislike? What traits are considered positive/neutral by others but tend to annoy you?
I appreciate those who have the balls to act in an unconventional manner, despite the social norms (to some degree). Rude behaviour is endearing when it's justified, since it could mean that the other person shares the same values as me. I'm annoyed by those who try too hard to fit in, people pleasers, small talk, topics that get brought up a lot but don't interest me, passivity, indecisiveness, certain small details like starting every sentence with "like" or using some slang words.
What kinds of things do you do to manage and/or beautify your environment (your room, your house, etc.)?
I'll clean my room if it gets noticeably dirty, maybe replace a piece of furniture if it's exceptionally ugly, but aside from that I won't do anything. Everything looks fine enough as it is.
How do you behave around strangers?
I simply act reserved, try to be as neutral as possible and show a hint of politeness just so I can go through the crowd without causing myself or others any problems. It's all rather draining and awkward, so I feel relieved once I get back home.
How do you react to conflict? What do you do if somebody insults or attacks you?
I'll let them know what my stance is on the problem and try to talk it out. Several attempts will be made, but if I see that nothing's going to be solved I'll either hit them back with a couple of verbal punches or simply leaveÖ depending on how important that said conflict is to me. Conflict makes me feel restless either way and I wish to resolve the situation quickly. I need some sort of closure so I can stop thinking about it and move on to the next thing.
Would you ever be interested in starting a business? Why or why not? What role would you play in it? What kind of business would it be?
I'm interested, mainly because I like doing things my own way and I wouldn't be able to work too well if I had to deal with a bad boss or coworkers. I'll try to do everything myself, but if that's not possible, I'd go for a leading role or anything that'd give me some control over the others so I can make sure the results are good. I don't know what kind of business this would be, I'd be willing to try a lot of things if they're profitable.
How do you dress or manage your appearance?
Iím not interested in fashion but I do want to look passable when Iím in public. Iíll take great care of my hair (to the point where itís a little obsessive) and keep switching between the same 3-4 shirts that I think look good and are comfortable, though I wonít do much else aside from that. Anything more would be excessive. Iíll follow dress codes if I have to, maybe wear something more formal in order to show that Iím serious, but following trends is a big no since Iím not willing to conform to such a degree. Clothes are more like a tool - a set of rules I gotta follow so I wonít be treated like a clown - rather than something thatís part of my life.
Do you like kids? Why or why not?
Pretty indifferent towards them, but if I had to pick a clear answer Iíd say no. Theyíre annoying and cause trouble. At their best theyíre just less developed adults.
In what situations or times in your life did you feel most fulfilled, and why?
Right after accomplishing something hard or important, like when I found my first job or entered university. Such events make me feel like Iím advancing in life, they keep things moving. Iím at my worst when I feel stuck - everything is static, boring, hopeless.
How do you feel about attention? Do you seek it out?
I donít actively seek attention, but I enjoy it. It gives me some validation and makes me feel less like a ghost.
How do you approach responsibility? What do you tend to expect of others?
I take my responsibilities seriously and I expect others to do the same.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what approach would you take, and why?
I would try my best to turn my child into a prodigy - I would make sure they get an outstanding education, introduce them to different activities so they can find out early on what theyíre good at and what they love to do, make sure theyíre on the right track. I wouldnít be so good at physically taking care of them, as in cooking or cleaning. My biggest fear is that the child wonít end up the way I want them to, like theyíd reject everything that I showed them in favour of something lesser. This is a huge dilemma for me. I value individuality, but would I resort to authoritarian methods if things didnít go properly? I wouldnít stand it if that happened, so even though it may seem somewhat hypocritical, itís likely.
Your friend bursts into tears. What do you do? How does it make you feel?
Itíd make me feel bad and a bit uncomfortable, though I wouldnít be pissed about it. Iíll comfort them and see if I can do something about the cause behind it. I know Iím going to be rather stoic throughout the whole thing but that doesnít mean Iím unconcerned. If nothing can be done about it Iíll try to distract them, lighten up the mood, etc.
What is your biggest accomplishment?
Answering this questionnaire.
What was (or is) your high school experience like?
High school was both painfully boring and frustrating. A few classes were interesting, but the main idea is that I was stuck in school for over 6 hours a day doing almost nothing significant, surrounded by people who irritated me. Didnít have anyone to talk to. Everything was stagnant, I couldnít wait to graduate and go out in the real world. Probably the worst stage in my life so far.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Happens quite often. I spend a good chunk of my time dealing with college/work related stuff, then all of a sudden I get a realisation: ďWait, oh sh*t, Iíve been doing nothing but write papers for weeks. These are important in the short-term, but pretty useless in the long-term. I gotta start focusing on my long-term goals!Ē. This will get me out of my auto-pilot mode for a while.
What is something you regret?
Vague question, vague answer. I regret an action if I know that the present/future would be better if I had done something different.
Who do you admire, and why?
Iíve got some sort of admiration for anyone whoís ever contributed to the world in one way or another. Artists, philosophers, CEOís, creators and professionals from most fields. Anyone who has the same values I do.
What's been on your mind? Has anything been worrying or concerning you? What problems have you encountered lately?
Iíve been thinking about Socionics a lot, trying almost obsessively to get things right and figure out what type I am. Not a good set of questions though, it probably just makes a certain part of your personality more obvious than it should be.
What are your spiritual or religious beliefs and why do you hold them?
I respect spiritual and religious beliefs for what they are, but I donít really integrate them in my daily life. Theyíre more like a fun thing I would explore in my free time, after all the higher priority things have been dealt with. I would adopt such beliefs as a way to cope with how boring and meaningless the world is.
What are your political beliefs, and why? How much do you care about politics?
I always jokingly say Iím too individualistic for politics. Different parties may have slightly different ideologies, but in the end theyíre all fundamentally the same. For most people politics are part of their identity, not a way to solve real world problems. I go with whatever makes sense to me at the moment, without aligning myself with a certain ideology. If I absolutely have to pick a label Iíll just say ďcentristĒ.
What kind of work environment do you prefer? What do you look for in a job?
I prefer work environments that donít force me to be around others for too long. Working on my own is great, working in a team is okay, but having to stay next to my coworkers for no good reason is just painful. I want to focus on our work and leave the small talk for later. I want a job that recognises my effort and rewards me for it. Organised environment, competent boss and coworkers, growth. The last thing Iíd want to do is be stuck in a poorly organised dead-end job where I have to follow absurd orders.
What is or was your favorite school subject and why?
I donít know, I generally liked humanities. Iím bad at picking favourites.
What is one common misconception that people have about life? Explain why it is wrong.
Iíve noticed a lot of people following an oversimplified optimistic vision of the world: ďGraduate, find a career, have a family and youíll be happy. Everyone is equal, we are all the same. Everything happens for a reason. Learn to love yourself and you will be lovedĒ. There may be a tiny bit of truth in these statements, but no. Youíre on your own - life is cruel and unfair. Truly being yourself will do you more harm than good if youíre too different from the norm.
Where did you go on your most recent vacation? What did you do there? How did you like it and why?
Dunno. I tend to only go to places that interest me, so I can see what theyíre like and what they have to offer. Like Iíve visited Rome because I find its history fascinating.
Talk about a significant event from your life.
[Insert irrelevant story that says absolutely nothing about my socionics type]
How do you see other people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
You can already tell Iím not a people person, what else is there to say? Stupidity is the biggest problem.
What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
I insist on getting it and put up a fight for a bit, but I get burnt out rather easily. So Iíll just cool down and find a way around it. Go on a 3 hours long search for answers, dozens of browser tabs open at the same time. Ask for advice if I canít find a solution on my own.
Are you comfortable taking leadership roles? In what areas? Why or why not?
It was more of an acquired taste, but Iím okay with leading. Iíve had to step in many times because no one else was willing to do it, or because they werenít good at it. Ideally Iíll go for some second-in-command kind of role so I wonít have to awkwardly speak in front of too many people. I like being in charge because it allows me to make sure everythingís done properly.
What is one unusual trait or ability you possess? What makes you special?
I can think for myself, wow!
What is your sense of humor like? Do you joke around a lot?
I joke around a lot, see above. Irony, mockery, absurdity, saying the opposite of what Iím thinking, total non-sense.
What were you like as a child? How have you changed since then?
Iíve always been a bit precocious, though I think my main problem was not being too in-tune with both myself and what the world is actually like. I had to figure it out through some trial and error. I used to seek external approval and had low self-esteem because I wasnít getting it, but the older I grew the more self-sufficient I became. In my teenage years I did a total flip from ďIím the worstĒ to ďIím the bestĒ. Finally figured out how things worked and what my identity was.
What is the best/worst thing that happened to you during the past week?
Do you? I donít keep track of such things.
What is the purpose of life? What do you find personally meaningful in life?
No real purpose, we just gotta find our own. Iíll keep going on the path I am right now and become my best. Prove to myself and others that I can do whatever I set my mind on.
What is the most interesting place you have been, and why?
Somewhere in my dreams, but I didnít write it down as soon as I woke up so weíll never know.