Do we know the same SEIs? Seriously, though, very interesting thread. Do you have any personal experiences you want to share with Ni?
I didn't grow up with much Se, although I feel like it was also expected of me in some ways, so not sure if I turned out strangely for an IEI or not. Mom's SEI, Dad's ILI-Ni, and my sister is probably Ne dom. My closest friends were mostly N types. Issues of assertiveness, exploration, getting off one's butt, etc...yes, I can see these as recurring themes in my life. Yet life has forced me to confront them time after time, so kind of like @
Eudaimonia, I feel like I was forced to develop both DS and role because of my circumstances. I was not handed a life where I could sit back and not think about my inferior.
I think my dad expected Se from me. He was a pretty lethargic guy but would praise me when I was a hard worker, go-getter, etc., so clearly he was wanting me to act as a dual.