DIfferent standards can make sense for example someone has it easier providing and doing particular things while others are good at different so they provide that but want the same form the other.
Empaths tend to be called emotional vampires and covert narcs then they kill themselves.
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Insecurity is valid if I don't know if you'd treat me well or have verified you won't. If you leave me alone as soon as things get difficult. Love bombing could be them trying to fix the relationship to make you feel good when you feel really bad because they don't hate you that much or so in the moment. Like they also give you what they owe you to make up for what they are gonna do it the future because they are unstable and know you'd give up on them if they say something bad during a weak moment later which you'd interpret them as not caring about you. Your innocent comments could also be insulting but you're not realizing it the same way power structures are abusive but people pretend nothing wrong's going on. It's a thing for narcs to see others as narcs. Literally everyone I know has perceived someone's unintentional doing something as harmful or personal. Doesn't mean that sometimes isn't. The logic is the problem here which is what I criticized @
panedmic candy about. People can spin reality to their own bs as much as they want what counts is if someone cares enough to see how they are wrong and fix themselves. Ways I fixed myself is ways others perceive me as being narcissistic now because that's their micsconception. Like victim mentality is how someone blames a victim. There's nothing wrong with victim mentality if it's the actual truth. Blaming someone for victim mentality implies you place your delusions that no one is a vicitm and it's a mentality (somethinfg you do to yourself). It implicitly proves you are not considering someone being a victim an actual reality.
Someone's communicating reality is someone else's gaslighting and the other way around. It's all due to cognitive insufficiency + a desire to stay stupid. For example @
pandemic candy comments were perceived as insulting by me which I explained to him why by insulting him back where insults are implicit in any criticism regardless if overtly communicated. My problem with him is exactly that, he thinks if you don't say something it's not there, if you don't see something it's not there, and if you fail to understand something then it's wrong. His worldview is instulting to my existance and mine to his. Your criticism of him is exactly the same as his is of me. Both logic is wrong because what you stated is not what makes someone a narc as it is your projection of your particular delusions which is superficial in nature you're missing the
narc in all of this.
People refuse to see someone as a victim because that makes themselves a target/wrong since they support abusing the victim. If they see themselves as wrong their reality falls apart. They cling to god and religion isntead of walking the flames of their own doing to rebuild themselves.
Mood cycling is them being unstable due to understanding the world is unstable and inconsistent. They don't know if what they see you displaying is how you really are so they don't know how to feel about you. Things out of their control > them being in danger. That's what a victim is. They need to know how reality is to know how they should react. Vulnerable people are seen as emotional vampires for crying and whining. The other way is invulnerable people who abuse others and dominate them to get ahead.
Most narc victims are other narcs who think they're sucked dry because they are used to not caring about others, they are used to getting their way. It's painful for them to be considerate it requires them to change to become better, to make way for someone else, to share and care when all they are used to is taking for themselves. Me criticizing him like that is what exactly forced him to respond to me when I was the one who lashed out (overtly) first.
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